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Hey guys, the topic of this episode is women who say I date to marry on first dates or on apps.

When you date the whole point is to see if you click.

First, you see if you have chemistry, which will be evident right off the jump.

Chemistry is not something that can be manufactured or forced.

It's just there and it happens naturally.

I remember someone asked me once, how do you know if you have chemistry?

Well the surefire way to know that you don't have chemistry is if you have

to actually ask if you have chemistry. And then as time goes on you also see if you have compatibility,

because if you want a happy and healthy relationship, you need both.

Only having chemistry is not going to lead to any type of long-term stability.

Sure you can have fun at all, but after a while you're going to start to realize that your

budding heads, you have different viewpoints, you're not on the same page,

you don't like the same things, you don't want the same things, and only having compatibility

but no spark or vibe, leads to complacency and staying in a relationship out of desperation or fear of loneliness.

So now that I got that out of the way,

don't ever ever ever go on a date and tell a guy that you're dating to marry.

Don't do it. It doesn't matter if that actually is your goal.

Sure you can have the goal of wanting to be married one day.

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