319. How to Love People Without Losing Yourself: Why Boundaries, Truth, and Joy Matter More Than Approval

House of Joy- Christian Life Coaching

Dr. Edie Wadsworth

Christianity, Mental Health, Religion & Spirituality, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Education

4.9 • 1.5K Ratings

🗓️ 16 September 2025

⏱️ 27 minutes

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Summary

If you’ve ever felt fried, frazzled, and weirdly resentful while trying to keep everyone else happy… this one’s for you. As a recovering people-pleaser, I’m sharing how to love fully without outsourcing your worth, absorbing everyone’s moods, or abandoning your own voice. We’ll talk about true self vs. false self, what healthy boundaries really are (and aren’t), and why self-doubt is one of the biggest energy leaks in midlife. In this episode you’ll learn How to spot “losing yourself”: constant external validation, silencing your needs, carrying emotions that aren’t yours. True self vs. false self: dropping the mask, living from belovedness, and becoming a “woman of valor.” Boundaries done right: sovereign choices versus trying to control other people. End the self-doubt spiral: reclaim the energy you’re leaking to second-guessing. Your body keeps score: the biology behind people-pleasing vs. living in truth, gratitude, and joy. Simple shifts to try this week so you can love from overflow, not depletion. Join our fall workshop Design Your Life: Live Your Purpose (Sept 24–26) + cozy home bonuses inside the pop-up Facebook group. Grab your spot for $7 → https://www.ediewadsworthcoaching.com/design Leave a quick review or share this episode with a friend who’s tired of living for approval. Your shares mean the world and help more women build lives of love, truth, and joy. 💛 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hello and welcome back to the podcast where you are invited for lighthearted conversations
0:05.6	about things that matter as you seek to live your most meaningful, beautiful, and joyful life.
0:10.9	I'm your host, Dr. Edie Wadsworth, and I hope you enjoy your stay here at the House of Joy.
0:16.9	Well, hi, dear ones. Welcome back to the House of Joy. This is episode 319. Sometimes I can't believe it, y'all. I can't believe. How many episodes we have created and recorded? I hope they're blessing you. Let us know. Come give us a review. We're always so grateful when you share the podcast and let us know how the episodes are landing with you.
0:40.6	I hope they're helping you.
0:41.8	Today is a juicy topic.
0:43.4	We're going to talk about how to love people without losing yourself.
0:46.8	Why boundaries, truth, and joy matter more than approval.
0:51.5	I say that as a recovering people pleaser addicted in my past life to
1:00.2	external validation. Most of us actually, I think we're raised to believe that to be a good woman
1:07.5	meant to keep everybody else happy to be agreeable and helpful and selfless.
1:12.7	And all of those are actually parts of my own personality that I love, that I take pride in.
1:22.7	But I have found through the years that if I'm also not making me one of the people that I'm
1:30.2	compassionate to and helpful to and tending to, that it doesn't end well. And it doesn't end well for me.
1:37.7	And it doesn't end well for the people that I love, that I do want to serve. So here's how,
1:43.5	here's some ways to know that you could be
1:46.6	losing yourself, like not tending to yourself, not putting yourself at least on the list,
1:53.1	and outsourcing your worth and your value to other people. So do you constantly look to
2:00.6	external validation to feel valuable? And man, I mean,
2:08.0	I feel convicted by that. I know this is something that I think all of us, especially as
2:15.0	women struggle with, but I think it's a, it's kind of a universal thing.
2:17.9	We want other people to validate us, to approve of what we're doing.
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