313 xt: Ask a Therapist with Lindsey (no AITA sitches, unusual but lovely ep)
AITApod (Am I The A**hole Podcast)
Danny Vega
4.2 • 804 Ratings
🗓️ 14 April 2022
⏱️ 72 minutes
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Summary
Hello wonderful listeners. This is an unusual ep as there are no AITA sitches. It's basically an hour of "get therapy." There's lot of juicy and interesting questions and you can find an elaborate table of contents below:
(00:00): Intro AITA w/ Lindsey
(00:40): Lindsey’s roommate needed therapy after learning how bad Danny's therapists were
(03:25): Do patients ever insult their therapists?
(04:28): What’s Lindsey's experience with couples in open or poly relationships?
(06:52): Do you think the impulse to open up your relationship is rooted in avoiding current issues?
(09:35) Generalizing about the sexes - is it really rooted in our relationships with our parents?
(12:03) What are some red flags as to whether a therapist is a bad fit?
(14:05) Danny details his nightmare therapists: the Freudian, tree drawer.
(16:29): Therapist Green Flags and experiences
(19:14): When you tell your therapist something about your ex and they say "I do that!" + Finding a therapist that fits your identity
(22:19): The importance of trusting your instincts in relationships
(24:23): Do you believe in anti-depressant medicine? Have you ever told a patient they need medicine as a replacement for therapy?
(27:32) What are signs a person isn’t going to do well in therapy? Linds says what does “do well” mean?
(29:55): How to approach your first time in therapy?
(32:32) Writing every single thing down can be therapeutic.
(34:30): Do couples therapy/ go the extra mile to work on things before you truly end it.
(34:48): Do you ever look back on your relationship and think what if?
(35:31)Do you think people should come to therapy w/ a plan?
(36:44) On the importance of taking therapy seriously.
(39:53) Linds has dealt w/ peoples tempers. Making a bigger deal about something than it needs to be.
(40:49): How to deal with relationship anxiety?
(43:17): How to handle a horrible roommate situation including late rent, odors, bad dog owner, bipolar and depressive
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| 0:00.0 | Hi, everybody. Welcome to Ami the Esau podcast. I'm Danny Vega, joined today by a very special guest. It's not her first rodeo, folks. She is our AITA resident therapist. You might say, maybe I shouldn't say that to put her on the payroll. Lindsay from Chicago, welcome back to the show. It's great to have you. Hey, it's great to be here. Happy Friday. |
| 0:23.5 | Yes, it's Friday indeed. And I'm so excited. We threw up on the Patreon. |
| 0:28.7 | By the way, you could join us on Patreon. Patreon.com slash AITA pod. |
| 0:33.5 | Lindsay has joined us. Thank you for supporting. |
| 0:36.6 | Oh, of course. I got my roommate to support too. |
| 0:39.3 | Oh my God. What a gem. Yeah. And can I, I wanted to tell, to lead into the story where she was telling me |
| 0:46.4 | the other day where she listened to the episode where you talk about being ghosted, heard you |
| 0:51.8 | were ghosted by three different therapists and she said it like upset her |
| 0:55.6 | so much that she told her therapist about it. That's amazing. I know. I'm sorry to upset her. I mean, |
| 1:06.3 | it upset me too. It's not a great feeling. She wasn't mad at you. She was mad at those therapists. It's, I mean, it's a not a great feeling she wasn't mad at you she was mad at those therapists it's |
| 1:13.3 | i mean it's a tough thing you know and we'll get into these questions that the patrons asked |
| 1:17.5 | but i think that's a that's a tough thing to straddle i know we've talked about it before but i'd |
| 1:21.4 | love to revisit because you know i mean you're feigning in a set i mean in a sense you i think |
| 1:27.2 | you told me before that you generally |
| 1:28.5 | do care about your patients, but you have to limit that as well, right? It's kind of a, yeah, |
| 1:34.3 | it's a gray area in some ways, right? Yeah, I mean, there's like a, right? Like, you have a degree |
| 1:39.1 | where you like someone professionally and then like where you really like him as like a friend it's like you know i'm not going to go hang out with patients but they're people i like right right right you know like you |
| 1:47.8 | like the people that you that you talk to all day it would be a horrible job if you hated |
| 1:52.1 | everybody that you talked to all day as a therapist but the there is a duty to maintain the |
| 1:58.1 | relationship in a sense right like if, or at least a not ghost. |
| 2:01.6 | Yeah, you can't ghost people. |
| 2:03.6 | It's not like, we can get it that later too. |
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