305: How To Build Healthy Relationships
The Adult Chair Podcast with Michelle Chalfant
Michelle Chalfant
4.9 • 1.6K Ratings
🗓️ 10 March 2022
⏱️ 32 minutes
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Summary
Relationships are one of the most basic human needs, but building healthy relationships takes self-awareness and work. While we talk a lot about behaviors that can make a relationship unhealthy, such as narcissism and gaslighting (which are both more than unhealthy – they're abuse), I thought it was time to talk about what makes a relationship a keeper.
What traits can you look to as your benchmark to see if your relationship is healthy and what should you aspire to if you're working on creating healthier relationships in your life?
In this episode, I'm sharing eight traits that healthy relationships have in common – whether that's a relationship with a partner, friend, family member or anyone!
Listen to discover:
- The 8 qualities of a healthy relationship
- What an apology is and what it isn't
- How to have open, honest communication
- Relationship truths to live by
This doesn't mean you have to get this right 100% of the time to be healthy, but healthy people DO work to repair mistakes and deepen connection, and that is what these practices will help you do.
Remember that, while it takes two to tango, you can change the dance of your relationship just by working on yourself. As you live more authentically from your Adult Chair, you will find the way you respond to others and the way you show up and communicate changes. If you're in a relationship with another healthy individual, they will be drawn to match your energy and meet you with more authenticity, vulnerability and openness – the keys to connection.
"We don't need to change other people to become who we want them to be." - Michelle Chalfant
"If you hurt someone you care about, you apologize." - Michelle Chalfant
"People in healthy relationships are interested in knowing what you need." - Michelle Chalfant
"We remember to use the word 'I' and not 'you.' We express OUR needs." - Michelle Chalfant
"Relationships take work – they really do." - Michelle Chalfant
LINKS & RESOURCES
Episode #302: Gaslighting 101
https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/302-gaslighting-101/
Episode #301: Narcissism 101: What It Is & How To Heal It
https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/301/
Episode #261: How to Receive a Boundary from Your Adult Chair
https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/261/
Adult Chair® Coaches
https://theadultchair.com/coaches/
MORE ADULT CHAIR
The Adult Chair® Website
The Adult Chair® Membership
https://theadultchair.com/membership/
The Adult Chair® Workshop
https://theadultchair.com/events/
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification
https://theadultchair.com/certification
STAY CONNECTED
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfantCo/
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | You guys, I have something so exciting to share with you, something that is brand new. |
| 0:07.5 | I want to ask you about your relationship. |
| 0:10.5 | Are you someone that feels like you are in a dead end relationship, maybe you feel stuck |
| 0:16.5 | or overwhelmed, maybe you're bickering a lot? |
| 0:20.9 | Perhaps you feel like you're living with a friend and feel really disconnected in your |
| 0:24.7 | relationship. |
| 0:26.1 | Let me just tell you guys something, this was me in my marriage. |
| 0:30.5 | This is exactly how I was with my husband, but I was able to turn things around, which |
| 0:36.4 | is why I'm so excited to announce the relationship reset course. |
| 0:41.7 | It launches the week of October 9th. |
| 0:45.8 | If you are looking to change your relationship, to transform your relationship with your |
| 0:52.2 | partner and create a more fulfilling, more connected relationship, this is the course |
| 0:58.1 | for you. |
| 0:59.1 | It is a six week long program where I'm going to be leading you live every single week |
| 1:04.7 | and everything will be recorded. |
| 1:07.6 | But I also have PDFs for you. |
| 1:09.6 | I have scripts. |
| 1:11.1 | I also have special guests that have come on to teach you more about attachment theory, |
| 1:18.3 | codependency. |
| 1:20.1 | And how you speak successfully to your partner in relationship to turn things around. |
| 1:26.2 | There are so many great things in this course. |
| 1:28.2 | This is a five year dream that I've had to put this course out. |
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