Welcome back to part two of a heart wrenching confessions of a cheetah on women of impact. Now we're talking about the silent struggles of a man who made the decision, yes it is a decision, to cheat multiple times and guys our conversation though painful to potentially hear. Now one thing is for damn sure, if you're in a relationship right now or thinking about one in the future, communication and understanding our differences, the motivations and the breaks in our expectations will actually save broken hearts and hopefully allow us to heal. So let's just jump right into part two with the terrorist we've brought on in the minute impact. Every Sunday without fail me my husband now played video games but I wouldn't have known that if he hadn't have communicated to me,

the thing he really wanted that was meaningful to him and then me reciprocating. But then that last thing is, if there is something that he does that I hate, and I just don't want to go like, he does a lot of speaking gigs. And it's like, I've got my own things to do. So people will always and always lease out. She's not speaking so I said to him you have chips

When you really want me to come there it is I've got my own things to do. So people will always say, no, I'll always leave, so I'll just start speaking again. So I said to him, you have chips.

When you really want me to come,

there it is. Place your chip down, and I will be there without hesitation. I will love it. I will love seeing you speak. I'm gonna be a biggest cheerleader. And I've got chips as well. And so that communication, that willingness to do things for each other.

And then having language around it

so you don't feel like you're pleading or begging

or talking around the topic. That's right, it's getting me emotional. It's getting me teary-eyed because that's what a healthy relationship looks like. Just communication. You said this, it's amazing that you can't get married without communicating. It's called vows. They said, do you take this woman to be this? If you just got silent, they'd be like, do you take this woman to be like, do you take this? It would be able to be fully executed. Matter of fact, you can't even get proposed to somebody or engage with somebody, unless it's communicated, that guy asked the question, will you marry me? He asked that question, the woman has a decision to make. Yes or no, we've seen those social media several times where that question didn't go the way the God thought. And he had his face, he just got embarrassed in front of a, you know, tons of people. But that same communication, the will you, yes, no, do you accept for richer, for for better for work These questions that we are asked those questions should never cease after the I do and we should always be able to communicate that and like you said To be able to say I'm not gonna be doing this all time. I got my own life But I also want you to feel value Here's some chips played as you wish. I want you to come here. I'll make no excuses. I'm coming there and I'm gonna be there

and I'm not gonna be sitting there like,

oh my God, there you go, greeting people after this.

So this is what you do every time you speak. You gotta go shake hands with everybody in the audience. You gotta go to, oh Lord, he's like, God, are you a burden? Now you making me feel bad about what I enjoy doing,

but to be able to show up, smile, and be like,

I'm here for you.

And he's like, I feel fulfilled.

You know what I'm saying?

And that's where, I feel fulfilled.

You know what I'm saying?

And that's where healthy communication looks like. That's what a healthy mayor's looks like. And so I get emotional when I hear what I desire executed properly. Thank you. It's been definitely, like when you said it earlier, right now, marriage is perfect, but is about trying to figure it out.

And I think that what that technique has done for me

and my husband is we have both have our needs met.

Yes. And we are vocalizing those needs. And there was something you said earlier where you were saying to your ex-wife, you asked her how much of her she'd given over and she was like, you know, like smiling. Oh, yeah. in a joke 80% even in that dynamic what you really mean is I want you to tell me what you

actually want I want you to show me your vulnerability and what she's smiling, you know, you would make in a joke 80%. Even in that dynamic, what you really mean is,

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