Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life

lessons and revelations. I believe in casual over clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated.

Three therapists, three questions. First question goes to Denay. Denay, what turns you on?

Curiosity.

That's it?

Yeah.

Just as it?

I mean, I think curiosity can mean so many things, can encapsulate so many things that come up.

But I think an open mind, an open heart, someone who is not you know sure of anything and just like that constant space of

seeking yeah I think it's like a curious mind. You ask your question now.

What scares you about aging?

To me or to Vanessa?

To Vanessa.

To Vanessa.

What scares me about aging? Um,

Becoming obsolete? becoming obsolete is kind of the first thing that comes up but I don't know if that's my answer

if that's like the answer I'm carrying on for my mother.

What does obsolete mean? Well I think you know we've talked about before like in in our

culture like aging women become more and more obsolete right so you're taken less as an expert, you're looked at less as somebody to pay attention to or to you know just bring an attention, not necessarily sexual attention, just any attention.

Because I think in our society, like women just become, again, more obsolete as I get older.

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