We don't talk enough about how sacred it is to feel emotionally safe with another human being.

And a romantic relationship should feel like a safe home to come home to, to return to.

And so many people are in relationships where they don't feel emotionally safe.

And I would define emotional safety as trust and respect.

Like very simply, the foundation of a relationship must be trust and respect.

And you can't build a home on shaky ground.

And you can't build a relationship on a weak foundation.

And a lot of people rush into relationships

because falling in love, obviously,

is a very emotional experience,

and we have these very strong feelings for someone and you couple that with

the pressure to partner with someone you know that the pressure to build a family um feeling like

you've been single a long time and people rush into relationships and they rush into commitment and marriage without first

building that strong foundation.

A relationship without emotional safety has no chance.

I mean, safety, emotional safety is not the only thing that we need in a relationship.

But if we don't feel safe, obviously physically, but also mentally and psychologically with

someone, all the other things, the chemistry, even the shared values, the fun times that you have,

none of it matters if you don't actually trust someone and you don't feel like you can

really be your true self with someone. And we underestimate what a gift it is

to be able to really feel like we can be ourself with someone.

We underestimate the gift that it is to be in a relationship with someone where you can have an argument.

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