288-Listen for Intimacy
Delight Your Marriage
Belah Rose
4.7 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 20 May 2021
⏱️ 33 minutes
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Summary
When she says, "We just don't communicate," or "You never listen,"...she is talking about this learnable skill.
Listen to her heart. Listen to understand. Listen to let her know you understand and care.
Not listening to respond or even defend yourself.
It is to listen to her emotions and sit with her in her pain. To be curious and to give her a safe space to share. When she shares her emotions (her heart) vulnerably, you are witnessing courage.
You are on sacred ground.
Tread carefully and gently.
For Mother's Day, just the other weekend --
Did I get diamonds?
A weekend getaway at a fancy resort?
A stainless steel, 14-quart Instant Pot Duo Mini 7-in-1 Electric Pressure Cooker?
I mean...
Sure those would have been good gifts.
But...
what I got was priceless:
Hours of his full attention.
He got excited about what I shared.
He cared about what matters to me -- how I'm growing,
how I was feeling,
and genuinely wanted to hear more.
He noticed my feelings -- wanted to hold space for them --
and held me emotionally...
And...well...did what I teach you to do in today's episode.
It was far more fulfilling than those other things ever could be.
(Just FYI, when he surprised me with my favorite wine, beautiful glasses, roses, and sitting together in a gorgeous spot in Central Park...that did add to the intimately fulfilling conversation. :)
Blessings,
Belah
PS If you'd like to have a conversation with me or a member of my team about what's going on in your marriage and see if one of my programs can help you, apply for a Clarity Call: delightyourmarriage.com/cc
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"Through working with Belah, my marriage is saved and thriving, and I am forever changed and grateful."
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Delight Your Marriage podcast. You're joining me, Bella Rose, as I dive deep into the beauty, power, and truths about intimacy. |
| 0:11.6 | Learn not only the practicals, but the heart behind what making love is all about. Delight your marriage. |
| 0:19.7 | Hi there. Welcome. This is Bella. I want to thank you for joining me today. |
| 0:25.2 | And I've got a really, really exciting conversation to share with you all about an incredibly |
| 0:31.0 | important skill. If you are a husband and you want to seduce your wife and cause her to come towards you in all sorts of ways, |
| 0:40.9 | including intimacy, this is vital. |
| 0:44.6 | And if you're a wife, it's just important in all sorts of areas of your life. |
| 0:50.2 | But, and if you want your husband to open up and be more vulnerable and share more, |
| 0:55.6 | which is a beautiful part of a relationship, this is also key for you. |
| 1:01.5 | All right. |
| 1:02.1 | Before we dive in, I mentioned on our last call that I have opened up clarity calls again |
| 1:08.8 | so you can speak to me or one of my team members to talk about |
| 1:13.1 | what would help you in your marriage and if one of my programs would be the right fit for you. |
| 1:19.4 | So if you'd like to apply, you can go to delight your marriage.com slash CC for clarity call. |
| 1:25.4 | All right. |
| 1:26.3 | Let's go ahead and dive in. |
| 1:37.4 | So let me tell you kind of a funny story just the other day that happened. |
| 1:41.7 | My husband and I made love in the morning. And afterwards, I said, |
| 1:47.0 | I'd really love to spend time with you. And for him, he felt like we just spent time together. |
| 1:54.3 | We just made love. And so for him, he was filled up and happy and ready to go. |
| 2:02.6 | And I was wanting to have coffee together in bed and talk and share. |
| 2:11.0 | And that would be most connecting for me, even though I enjoyed making love and it was great. |
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