278: Hangups Of Being The Oldest Child
Now That We're A Family
Elisha and Katie Voetberg
4.8 • 1.7K Ratings
🗓️ 4 April 2024
⏱️ 49 minutes
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| 0:00.0 | So this podcast is in response to a question that we got from a listener who was explaining that her six-year-old daughter says she hates being the oldest and |
| 0:10.8 | the mother thinks is partially because her daughter doesn't like to share with her younger siblings, |
| 0:15.6 | but we get this question in various forms consistently, which is older children are resenting |
| 0:21.4 | the younger siblings. They don't like the birth |
| 0:24.0 | order and the family and we do know this to be true for a lot of oldest children |
| 0:27.8 | especially in big families. It seems like maybe the load gets heavier the more kids there are that comes afterwards. |
| 0:35.2 | And the oldest, you know, regardless of whether they're the oldest of three kids or 13 kids, |
| 0:39.7 | they can start to feel that burden and resent being the oldest. |
| 0:43.6 | And we never want our kids to resent their birth order. |
| 0:46.8 | Obviously, victimhood, they can choose |
| 0:50.0 | to be the victim at any stage, so we as parents cannot carry that sole responsibility. |
| 0:55.3 | We have to, our children at the end of the day are responsible for how they feel as adults |
| 1:00.0 | about their lot in life. But I'm the oldest. I absolutely love being the oldest. I'm so |
| 1:06.9 | grateful for how my parents raised me and so this podcast is going to be from know, one person's perspective on how I love being |
| 1:14.9 | the oldest. I just asked our oldest son before we headed out here on the podcast. I said, hey, do you |
| 1:20.5 | like being the oldest? Or would you rather, rather you know be in one of your other |
| 1:24.2 | siblings positions and he said no I love being the oldest so he's only seven |
| 1:29.3 | right now but I'm encouraged and we want to keep staying that course because we really want each one of our children to appreciate |
| 1:37.6 | Not only the family they were born into but the place in that |
| 1:43.3 | God's design within that. So anyways, I hope you guys enjoy this episode. That was a long winded intro. If you enjoy it, give it a thumbs up if you are here on YouTube |
| 1:48.1 | share it with someone if you feel like this would be encouraging to them. You guys get the word out there about that |
| 1:53.6 | now that we're a family podcast, |
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