Hello lovely humans. I'm YOLI and you are listening to X stories, formerly sex stories,

a podcast where we learn about what makes connection

pleasureful for different people in an effort to make the world of sexier

more loving place. And our guest today is a 35-year-old kitchen table polyammer street-ish Indian American person who has multiple

partners. He loves creating healing experiences through touch, inviting fun and play

into intimate connections, and spreading a wholesome sense of

sleddiness in and outside of their artistic community. They work as a sexual surrogate partner

therapist and sex educator with us today from Washington DC welcome

Cheet.

Hey how are you you have such a telephone voice.

Oh well I practiced my breathing and in fact I am trained as an actor.

Film school, an actor trained.

And yes, I do get squeaky when I get excited or regular and I do talk like a little kid a lot which you maybe heard before we started but thank you

Okay, so Cheat could you please start off by rating yourself on sexual shameometer with 10 being a so full of shame and 1 or 0 being like what shame I don't have any

shame where do you fall today when if ever does it fluctuate?

What I would say is probably like 0.5.25 like I don't want to I don't believe in using

extreme numbers so I have but I am known as the shameless friend. It's a fortuitous thing because my work centers are in destroying shame.

I love it.

I would say that over time it's slowly trended towards even more shameless, but I've naturally been very fortunate that I, from a very, very young age, have had little to know shame and been relatively shameless as a person which also gets me into

plenty of trouble. Relatable. How does it get you in trouble? Because I accidentally will explode people with questions that I don't realize are like

Exploding a shame landmine, but I'd be curious to hear how it gets you in trouble or do you mean like naughty things

The concept of TMI does not exist or when you're like, oh, here's my open

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