251. The Sex Talk You Never Got: What Formed Your View of Sex
Female by Design
Francie Winslow
4.9 • 686 Ratings
🗓️ 26 January 2026
⏱️ 18 minutes
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Summary
Whether we realize it or not, every one of us has a "sex view," a lens through which we understand and experience our sexuality. It's shaped by what we were told (or not told), by pain, silence, shame, weariness, and the culture around us. But what if that view isn't the full story? What if God has something better?
In Part 2 of this series, Francie gently but powerfully unpacks five common sex views that shape our beliefs and behaviors, and how to trade them in for a vision rooted in truth, beauty, and God's original design.
You'll hear:
The 5 most common lenses women carry into marriage
How wounds, weariness, and whispers from the past still affect your present
What it means to see your body and sexuality through the works of God
Why knowing your design is part of your healing
A fresh invitation to live integrated, connected, and whole
This episode is for every woman who has ever felt confused, shut down, or disqualified when it comes to sex, and longs to see with new eyes.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Female by Design podcast, an honest space for female flourishing. |
| 0:07.8 | I'm Francie Winslow. |
| 0:09.9 | Together, we'll explore sexuality and spirituality by God's design, |
| 0:15.8 | healing our relationship with pleasure, our bodies, and our identity as beloved image bearers. So let's take a deep |
| 0:24.3 | breath and step into God's invitation to live fully alive as women, mind, body, and spirit. I'm so glad |
| 0:35.0 | you're here. Hey guys, it's Francie. Welcome to Female by Design podcast. Today I am following up on a short |
| 0:42.2 | series we're doing on the sex talks. You wish you had, you never had. I don't know how many of you |
| 0:47.5 | had a robust sense of preparedness for married sex or like, hey, yeah, we got all of this great content and instruction |
| 0:56.0 | in our premarital. And so jumping into an active sexual married relationship was easy. |
| 1:02.6 | I haven't heard that often or actually ever. It seems that even in premarital counseling that |
| 1:08.3 | I have inquired about, because anytime somebody's getting married, I'm like, did you have premarital counseling? I'm inquired about because anytime somebody's getting married, I'm like, |
| 1:11.3 | did you have premarital counseling? I'm just curious what resources they gave you to talk about sexuality |
| 1:16.8 | and healthy sex life and getting started on the right foot. And I would say 99% of the time I get, |
| 1:23.6 | we didn't talk about it or we had one hour or it was really awkward. I don't really even know what we talked about. |
| 1:29.8 | And that is, breaks my heart. But I'm glad you're here because we can kind of hopefully fill in some of the gaps. |
| 1:35.9 | Even if you're, you know, five years into marriage, maybe even 30 years into marriage, I've had conversations with women where they began to renew their minds and renew their hearts |
| 1:45.2 | and heal their understanding of God's dream for sexuality and for their sex life in particular |
| 1:51.2 | because God has the power to enter in wherever we are and help heal the narrative in our mind, |
| 1:56.5 | the experiences of our bodies and our nervous systems, and the reality of our relationships. So that in mind, God, thank you for the gift of our bodies and our nervous systems and the reality of our relationships. |
| 2:01.3 | So that in mind, God, thank you for the gift of our bodies. |
| 2:06.7 | We just take a deep breath and say, you are good. |
| 2:11.0 | You are good. |
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