Hello my loves I am Wai O' Lee and you are listening to sex stories a

podcast where we share our most intimate details in an effort to practice talking about sex and

improve sex lives everywhere and my guest on the podcast today is

Olivia welcome. Thank you for having me. I'm so excited to have you here. So can you introduce yourself to our listeners just so they get a snapshot of who you are?

Absolutely. So my name is Olivia. I'm in my late 20s, live in California, Northern California, to be specific.

Grew up on the Central Coast in a tiny little Catholic town.

Currently, just a conservationist by day and a hiker dancer and baker by night. I would take out the word just little bit about your sexual self like maybe

and would you share with us a little bit about your sexual self like maybe start

with origin story or just kind of your current relationship with sex and we'll go from there.

Yeah, so I kind of just finished I guess like a two year phase of really deep exploration with myself, like really focusing on just

owning my own self pleasure and just how to make myself feel good, but also learning how to ask for what I want and

communicate what I want clearly because I used to find so much through sex.

I felt like I was a vehicle for someone's pleasure but couldn't

communicate what I wanted even though I had huge sex drive, super horny all the time,

but just didn't feel comfortable asking for what I wanted so

yeah it took the last couple years to just really discover that within myself.

That totally resonates.

When you say didn't ask for what you wanted, were you aware of what you wanted and you just couldn't put it to words or was it like another, like was it more nebulous than that?

I feel like it was more nebulous than that? I feel like it was more nebulous

than that it was almost like there was just like a total disconnect like a

partner would be there between my legs looking up at me and be like what do you

want what feels good to you and no words could come out.

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