Hello, hello, and welcome to the new mindset who this podcast my name is Kase Kenny at case.canny on Instagram and this is my weekly podcast where I create short no BS episodes dedicated to helping you be the person you're meant to be leave your comfort zone and live a fulfilling and purposeful life. Let's go.

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I'm not going to be a big fan of this podcast. I'm not going to be a big fan of this podcast. But today I've got something that I've been thinking about a lot lately and it's like it's like one of those big life questions, but it's something that we lose sight of. So I want to give you something to think about here.

It's to this big life question of what matters. Yeah, big question. What matters in life? What actually matters in life? And I'm like, man, damn, I don't know. Like, why are you coming at me? I think that's how I would use to react to that question. Like, take it easy. Can't we just hang out? Like, why are you getting all serious? But I think this question, what really matters in life? I think coming up with an answer to it will really, really help you.

In your life. And I think it'll help you because it gives you direction. And far too often, if you're honest with yourself, you, we, we live without direction in life. And that is what leads us to be anxious and frustrated. And we feel lost and we compare ourselves to other people. So it's because we don't necessarily know why we're doing what we're doing or what is what should be the expectation for ourselves as we live as we work as we date.

But I think if you can come up with an answer of what matters, then you can align your expectations with that. And then your actions with that. And then you'll be more aligned with what to do and what to say and what to think and then boom, voila, you're happier. So I know it's not that simple. But I really think this question is big. What matters in life?

And I have thoughts on this, of course, you know, your boy always has thoughts. But first, let's turn to a quote. I'm sure you've heard before. It's usually attributed to the homey, the Buddha, but apparently that's not right. So let's just say someone a lot wiser and cooler than me once said this. And the quote and the quote is in the end, only three things matter.

How much you loved how gently you lived, how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you. Right. I dig that. That's a vibe. How much you loved how gently you lived, how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you.

That's actually a lot of things, right. That's that's like three big things to focus on in life. Three whole massive things. And I don't know if you're like me, I kind of max out of like one or two things, you know, otherwise, like I forget or I get distracted. It's like, why did I walk into this room? Or you know, what are the what am I doing? I trade our Joe's right now? Or how did I end up buying so many things at Target? Right. You get distracted. So in thinking about this. And those three.

And I think we can radically simplify this. We can radically simplify what matters in life. We can radically simplify our expectations for ourselves in life. So I say, what are those three things? How much you loved how gently you lived, how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you. What do those things all ultimately mean?

Well, I think if you do those three things, you're inevitably going to be proud of yourself. That's it. You'll just be proud of yourself. And that is what I think really matters in life. And then it trickles down to smaller things and smaller actions. What really matters in life is that you live your life. And no matter what happens, no matter what doesn't happen, you can look yourself in the mirror and say, I am proud of myself.

I'm proud of myself. I'm proud of my effort. I'm proud of my journey. I'm proud of the intentions I have. So that is it to me. That is it. And to me, it met most certainly. It's a vibe. Right. So in regards to this question that I want to tackle, what really matters in life?

I say that being proud of yourself is what matters in life. And even as I'm saying this, I recognize that's rather cheesy and abstract. But if you really consider it, if you really consider it within the context of your life, it really is so, so, so important.

And I think making this your goal will have so many other effects in your life and your career and your personal growth and your dating life.

If you make your goal to simply be proud of yourself and then you act on that intention, you're going to check all those boxes on the alleged Buddha quote, right. You will push yourself to love fully.

You will push yourself to let go of things that don't serve you. But not only that, you'll be more compassionate. You'll be more confident. You'll go after what you want. You'll say yes more often. You'll say no more often. You'll respect boundaries.

And I really think this and you know, I never talk about things on the show that I don't live myself. And you know, this has been on my mind for a long time. I'd say for the past three to five years, this has been my intention.

I just want to make myself proud. And it's like it's ingrained in my brain. Like I'm really stubborn. So if I get an idea or a motivation to do something and it means a lot to me, well, it's it's like game over here.

You're not going to change my mind. It's like my best and worst character trait. I suppose, but I've been living this and it's led me to all kinds of great areas of growth in my life. It's led me to my 32nd rule, which I've talked about on the podcast before that if I get an idea, I have to act on it now.

I have to act on it within 30 seconds. That could be mean, you know, me raising my hand to speak or volunteer to go first or going up to a girl at a bar, even as silly as that.

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