Hello friends. Welcome to We Can Do Hard Things. Today we are going to talk about the feeling

of being left out. And we're going to discuss how to survive that feeling. It's just the worst and how

even maybe occasionally to transcend that feeling. But I don't even know. We're just going to talk a

lot about how to survive life as an adult and a kid with this constant recurring feeling.

That never really goes away completely doesn't know. I think there's a lot of different levels of it

and we'll discuss all of them. But just the feeling of rejection. Oh my solution. Yeah, isolation.

And also however good belonging feels, however good being in when you're like you are in with that

person. Yeah. You are their person and they're not going to do anything without you. It's like

that feels so good. And being left out is the equal and opposite of that amazing feeling. Yeah.

Do you have stories? I have one. Incidentally, I have the first time that I felt like so hard.

Basically, I was left out of everything as the youngest of seven kids. Right. But one in particular

had nothing to do with my family. It was my friends. I lived pretty close to one of my childhood

best friends. And so I would ride my little bike down to her house. And back then you didn't really

call. We had no cell phone. So you just showed up at people's houses and you knock on their door

and you're like, you want to play? And so I knock on Susie's door and she has a friend over. Another

friend of mine, Caitlin. And they're hanging out and I walk in, you know, walk into the house and

eventually this must have been like four or five minutes being there. They just said,

we don't want you here. How old are you? I must have been seven or eight. And I was like, okay.

And so I got back on my bike and the worst part is it's an uphill all the way home.

So I think I was crying a little bit. And I got myself together because I now had to go say

it out loud to my parents, to my mom, who knew that I had just left like 10 minutes ago.

So I get home and my mom says, what are you doing back? And I said, they didn't want to play with

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