2393: How to Keep Emotions From Running Your Life by David Cain

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🗓️ 26 June 2022

⏱️ 9 minutes

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David Cain of Raptitude shares how to keep emotions from running your life. Episode 2393: How to Keep Emotions From Running Your Life by David Cain of Raptitude on Emotional Freedom & Meditation David Cain is a writer and entrepreneur living in Winnipeg, Canada. On a particular boring day at his office job in 2009, he started Raptitude. His interest has always been human society and the internal human experience, and Raptitude became his megaphone for his thoughts about those things. It found an audience rather quickly and it’s been central to his life ever since. In 2013, he left his day job to write full time. The original post is located here: https://www.raptitude.com/2017/02/how-to-keep-emotions-from-running-your-life/ Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalLivingDaily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	This is Optimal Living Daily Episode 2393.
0:04.0	How to Keep Emotions from Running Your Life by David Cain of Raptor2.com.
0:09.0	And I'm your narrator Justin Malik, the guy that reads blogs or articles to you every single day of the year, including weekends and holidays.
0:16.0	I appreciate you listening every single day. It really means a lot.
0:20.0	We're going to get right to our next post as we optimize your life.
0:24.0	How to Keep Emotions from Running Your Life by David Cain of Raptor2.com.
0:33.0	The worst period of my life ended shortly after I made a key discovery.
0:38.0	Most of the difficult experiences in my life arose directly from my desperate need to avoid difficult experiences.
0:45.0	At the time, I was flunking in school.
0:48.0	I was a bad student because I avoided asking for help or revisiting concepts I hadn't grasped the first time.
0:54.0	I avoided those things precisely because they made me feel like a bad student.
0:59.0	It was a perfectly self-defeating strategy, but of course I didn't realize what I was doing until later.
1:05.0	I had inadvertently made certain emotional experiences, in particular the feeling of being seen as incompetent,
1:11.0	so unacceptable that I'd do anything to avoid them, which is precisely why they continue to dominate my life.
1:18.0	The light came when I discovered a simple principle that sometimes is described as exposure therapy.
1:23.0	You experiment a bit at a time with letting yourself feel the things you're afraid to feel and watch them lose their power over you.
1:32.0	We think about our feelings so that we don't have to feel them.
1:36.0	As a particularly hard case, but we all do this to some extent, we empower certain difficult emotions by trying to never feel them.
1:45.0	The effect can snowball until it becomes crippling.
1:48.0	Desperately avoiding the experience of embarrassment, for example, leads to habits of extreme shyness.
1:54.0	This only further stigmatizes embarrassment and stunts the social skills that can prevent it or mitigate it.
1:59.0	Shining seems at first like a reasonable defense against embarrassment, but it only makes it into a looming specter that controls your life.
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