#237 - Married With a Crush?
Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
4.6 • 849 Ratings
🗓️ 15 March 2021
⏱️ 52 minutes
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Summary
Are crushes innocent, or on-ramps to an affair? Can you be "friends" with someone you have a crush on, without risking your relationship? What should you do when you're married, but have a crush on someone else? Oh, the questions!
It happens: people in happy, healthy, committed relationships can still develop crushes on others. However, smart, self-aware people in committed relationships need to not follow those feelings, but rather handle them maturely and with wisdom.
What To Do (And Not Do) When You Are Married And Have a Crush
Today on the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast I'm talking all about how to handle yourself and your relationship when you have a crush on someone else. We'll be discussing:
- The mechanics of a crush; how and why crushes develop
- The difference between a crush and a platonic friendship
- Why happy, committed married people can have crushes on others
- How crushes can turn into something more serious
- How to use self awareness, integrity, and honesty to protect your marriage
- How to use your crush experience in order to add energy and intimacy into your relationship
- Warning signs that your crush is developing into something else
- Why extramarital affairs are always a bad idea, and rarely end well
- How to stop having a crush on someone else
- How to avoid embarrassment and professional ruin if you have a crush on a coworker
- How to protect your relationship and stay true to your values even when you're having feelings for another.
All this and more on today's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast.
xoxo,
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Ps: If you're worried that your partner may have a crush on someone else, here are some other resources for you: Signs of an Emotional Affair,and How to Get Your Needs Met in a Relationship. You can also play this episode in the car with your partner and see what they'd like to share... LMB
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| 0:00.0 | This is Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, and you're listening to the Love, Happiness, and Success Podcast. |
| 0:09.5 | Well, I love you, babe, I love your stop. |
| 0:12.5 | When you walk the boss, drop me off, I love you once and love you twice. |
| 0:17.9 | A big ball, baby, you're a hoofo now. |
| 0:34.7 | Johnny Powers from 1957 with the song Long blonde hair and rose red lips, |
| 0:42.2 | singing just so evocatively about the excitement and the kind of zing that you get from having a big fat crush on someone. He's singing it. So that is what we're talking about |
| 0:49.9 | on today's podcast, is not just, not just the experience of having a profound crush on another |
| 0:57.9 | person, but really the complexity and, you know, pros and cons of developing a romantic crush on |
| 1:08.0 | someone when you are in a committed long-term relationship. |
| 1:13.0 | You know, that's not something that we like to think about. |
| 1:17.1 | And it happens. |
| 1:18.5 | It happens a lot. |
| 1:20.0 | And I'm going to be giving you some very actionable advice on what to do and what not to do |
| 1:27.3 | to turn that experience into something that |
| 1:29.6 | can actually make your current relationship be even better and juicier and more often, |
| 1:36.0 | awesome rather, and also some real what not to do is because we don't want you to have |
| 1:42.6 | an affair and blow up your life either. |
| 1:45.9 | And that is a risk when you develop a crush on someone else. |
| 1:49.4 | So that's where we're going today on the podcast. |
| 1:52.1 | But hey, if this is your first time listening, hello, and I'm so glad that you found me |
| 1:57.6 | and that you found this. |
| 1:59.0 | I'm Dr. Lisa Marie-Bobby. |
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