236. Is Capitalism Ruining My Sex Life? With Queer Sex Therapist Casey Tanner

Financial Feminist

Her First $100K

Self-improvement, Education, How To, Business

4.7 • 6.2K Ratings

🗓️ 2 June 2025

⏱️ 59 minutes

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Let’s talk about sex baby! If you've ever wondered why sex, pleasure, and intimacy often come with guilt—you're not alone. In this episode of Financial Feminist, I’m joined by Casey Tanner, AASECT certified sex therapist and author of the book “Feel It All: A Therapist's Guide to Reimagining Your Relationship with Sex.” We dive deep into how capitalism, purity culture, and gender norms are shaping not just your finances—but your sex life too. Yep––capitalism might be in your bedroom. Casey and I unpack how productivity obsession, religious trauma, and internalized shame creep into our most intimate moments. We explore how queerness, pleasure, money, and identity intersect—and how healing from societal conditioning around sex can help us build better relationships with ourselves and others. Whether you're partnered, solo, questioning, or just curious, this conversation will blow your mind and soothe your nervous system all at once. TW: Sexual assault , mention of suicide, eating disorders Casey’s links: Queer Sex Therapy’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queersextherapy/ The Expansive Group’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theexpansivegroup/ Read transcripts, learn more about our guests and sponsors, and get more resources at https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/236-is-capitalism-ruining-my-sex-life-with-queer-sex-therapist-casey-tanner/ Looking for accountability, live coaching, and deeper financial education? Check out our exclusive community! Join the $100K Club: https://herfirst100k.com/100k-pod Our favorite travel and cash-back credit cards, plus other financial resources: https://herfirst100k.com/tools Not sure where to start on your financial journey? Take our FREE money personality quiz! https://herfirst100k.com/quiz Special thanks to our sponsors: Squarespace Go to www.squarespace.com/FFPOD to save 10% off your first website or domain purchase. Rocket Money Stop wasting money on things you don’t use. Cancel your unwanted subscriptions by going to RocketMoney.com/FFPOD. Quince For your next trip, treat yourself to the luxe upgrades you deserve from Quince. Go to Quince.com/FFPOD for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Netsuite If your revenues are at least in the seven figures, download the free e-book Navigating Global Trade: 3 Insights for Leaders at NetSuite.com/FFPOD. Masterclass Get an additional 15% off any annual membership at Masterclass.com/FFPOD. Indeed Get a $75 sponsored job credit to get your jobs more visibility at Indeed.com/FFPOD. ZocDoc Visit Zocdoc.com/FFPOD to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. ResortPass Visit Resortpass.com and use code FFPOD to get $20 off your first ResortPass experience. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Oh, great, another thing capitalism is ruining.
0:02.4	We're talking about sex today and how that capitalism monster might be ruining that for you, too.
0:08.1	Our guest today is Casey Tanner, a A-A-A-A-A-S-E-C-T-certified sex therapist, author, and creator of queer sex therapy.
0:15.7	I could not have put words to my queerness growing up, but I think I equated that queerness to that badness. Like the thing
0:22.5	inside of me that was bad, that was my queerness. Casey is a Gen Z and millennial thought leader
0:27.8	in sexuality. And it is their mission to inspire your sexual awakening through anti-oppressive
0:33.2	queer sex education and mental health support. Coming out has set me on a path to becoming a person that I like more, a person that, like,
0:41.9	is a better member of community, a more thoughtful person, a more loving person.
0:45.6	Like, only good things have come out of this.
0:48.0	In this episode today, we get into all of it, including religious trauma and the ways that
0:52.2	dogma upbringings can affect the way we embrace our sexuality and pleasure, especially if you grew up in purity culture. Me too, girl.
0:59.8	We also discuss ways in which this directly translates to how we embrace conversations around money, rest, and capitalism.
1:07.4	We don't flip a switch and become somebody totally different when we get naked with people.
1:11.6	We bring all of that into the bedroom.
1:13.6	We bring this obsession with productivity into the bedroom.
1:17.6	We also dive into queerness, virginity, the double standard on women around their sexuality,
1:21.6	and the idea about how we have sex might actually influence the way we live the entire rest of our lives, too,
1:28.9	and why this matters when it comes down to managing your money.
1:31.6	Casey is so incredibly insightful, and I think you're going to get so much from this episode.
1:35.4	Let's get into it.
1:37.9	But first, a word from our sponsors.
1:40.8	You know that I know that we love saving you money on this show.
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