233: Gretchen Rubin - How To Be Happy

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Ryan Hawk

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🗓️ 27 November 2017

⏱️ 41 minutes

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Summary

Episode 233: Gretchen Rubin - How To Be Happy

Gretchen Rubin is the author of several books, including the blockbuster New York Times bestsellers, Better Than Before, The Happiness Project and Happier at Home. She has an enormous readership, both in print and online, and her books have sold almost three million copies worldwide, in more than thirty languages. Fast Company named Gretchen Rubin to its list of Most Creative People in Business, and she’s a member of Oprah’s SuperSoul 100.

She’s been interviewed by Oprah, eaten dinner with Daniel Kahneman, and walked arm-in-arm with the Dalai Lama.

Gretchen Rubin started her career in law and was clerking for Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O’Connor when she realized she wanted to be a writer. She lives in New York City with her husband and two daughters.

The Learning Leader Show

"What do I want from my life? I want to be happy. How can I be happier?"

Show Notes:

Commonalities of leaders who sustain excellence:
- They are self aware
- They are happy and healthy and figured themselves out
Better Than Before -- How to create great habits
"I can't have a little. I either have none or a lot." -- Needed to abstain from things like that (sugar)
Think -- "What do I want from my life?" "I want to be happy..." She then went to the library to study. Did a deep dive on happiness
- What are the keys to happiness?
- Every month (for a year), she created a theme for the month: 3-5 concrete resolutions she could measure to make herself happier
Aim higher -- "Enjoying the fun of failure" -- Starting a blog. Initially worrying that nobody would read it. "It's okay to fail."
How can you buy happiness?
How to be grateful for what you have... Both experiences and possessions
Bill Gates takes "think weeks" -- Why we all should do this
Warren Buffett can buy anything he wants... But he cannot buy time
Gretchen describes her typical day
The Four Tendencies (Personality Profiles) -- How you respond to expectations
- Upholders - Respond readily to both outer expectations and inner expecations
- Questioners - Question all expectations; they meet an expectation only if they believe it's justified, so in effect they respond only to inner expectations
- Obligers - Respond readily to outer expectations but struggle to meet inner expectations
- Rebels - Resist all expectations, outer and inner alike
A live role play between Gretchen and me describing which tendency we inhibit and why we are different
Questioner vs Upholder - An upholder wants to always follow the rules (Gretchen)... A questioner (me) thinks differently
Gretchen's advice - Get clarity on who you are, your personality profile, and how you respond to expectations
- Questioner - Why are you doing this? Know who, what when, why?
- Obliger - Go beyond. Let's both commit. Find outer accountability. Take action
- Rebel - Freedom, choice. "I want my voice heard."Influence change

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Transcript

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0:00.0	The people are the happiest, the healthiest, the most successful, the most productive,
0:04.0	are the ones who have figured out themselves and set things up in the right way for them.
0:10.3	Like, if you're a night person, don't try to get up at 6 a.m. and go for a run.
0:16.3	You know, and I think sometimes people feel like, well, they need to fit themselves into a model of what
0:21.4	excellent people do.
0:22.4	But in fact, if you look at what excellent people do. But in fact if you look at what excellent people do, they make
0:26.1	the world reflect what they need and what allows them to thrive. Hey and welcome to the Learning Leaders Show I am Ryan Hawk.
0:38.0	Thank you so much for being here. I absolutely love doing this. Hey get out your phone you're probably already on it listening to
0:44.7	this. Text learners to 442-2 that's learners with an S to 4-42 in order to join thousands of other fellow learning
0:56.3	leaders from all over the world discuss the latest trends and topics in the space
1:00.5	of leading and serving others.
1:03.0	Text learners to 442-2.
1:07.0	Now on tonight's featured leader and it's an incredible one
1:10.0	with Gretchen Rubin.
1:12.0	She's been interviewed by Oprah eating dinner with Dannychen Rubin. She's been interviewed by Oprah, eating dinner with Danny Kahneman and
1:15.1	walked arm and arm with the Dalai Lama. Also has written a number of worldwide best-selling books, the Happiness Project which has sold millions of
1:25.5	copies all over the world.
1:29.6	We discussed those books, some of her experiences, as well as these topics, how you can create your own
1:36.7	happiness project. Then we discussed the four personality profiles that reveal how to make your life better and did a live off-the-cuff role play
1:46.8	which was a lot of fun I think you like then we ended the conversation with Gretchen
1:50.4	giving specific advice for each of the four personality types.
1:55.0	I found it to be quite helpful to help better your life as well as those around you.
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