today on the Empowered Wife podcast.

So he and I would start to have arguments and

if I go into these arguments, he wouldn't back down to the point that I got so angry.

I've never been that angry in my life until I made him, honestly, I would sometimes just can't communicate myself enough.

And whatever I say, he'll come back with such a good response, and I just can't win and I get so angry to the point sometimes I can I'm like throwing papers away you know throwing all over the place you know even that so because of these very intense fights that we started to have and

this doubts that okay you know now that I look back that was the fear that really started to have a huge, it started to get in the way of me trusting him and I think he really led to me becoming disrespectful.

Welcome to the Empowered Wife podcast where it's all about fixing your

marriage without your husband's conscious effort so that you feel desired

taken care of and special even if your relationship feels hopeless.

I'm Laura Doyle, and today I'm discussing, how do you respect a husband who hasn't earned it? My guest Yuki felt like the victim of her

abusive husband since forever and she couldn't tell anyone because she felt too

ashamed. Then she found a way to interrupt the familiar pattern at her house and

today she has a very respectful marriage that includes joking and she truly feels

her husband's love. She's going to tell us how she did it so you

can do it too. But first, let's dig into how to respect a husband who hasn't earned it because if your husband is not doing the things he promised like to love, honor and cherish or if he's drinking way too much or if there's another woman that he's too close with or if he's just

become a loser pants then and how are you going to be able to respect him?

I mean what if he's abusive? What if he's distant or absent? What if he's walking away from the marriage? What if you

married a calm man who conned you? It's already painful enough to be in that situation without feeling like now you should somehow just suck it up and be a respectful saint to him. How is that even humanly possible, especially if you

look at your husband and all you feel is disgust because of his narcissism or the way he's mean to the kids or the way he

cruises along while you do everything. It's already more than you should be

putting up with. So that last one, him cruising along while you do everything, that was

actually me. I couldn't respect my husband because I was doing all the cleaning the cooking the shopping the

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