Porn Free Radio, episode 217. On today's show, I'm going to share a powerful daily habit that

will create focus, give you more clarity in your thinking, and actually make your recovery easier.

Sound good? We'll stay tuned. But first, I want to share a quick message about Rev Group coaching.

About four years ago was the first night that I logged in to lead Rev Group coaching.

And I was a little scared. I started the video conference early. Now, I had hosted webinars

before, but this was different. The guys in this group would actually

see each other on camera. They'd have to share their stories and their struggles with

pornography and their recovery plans. And they were complete strangers to one another. I was kind of

thinking, would this work? I mean, I know the podcast was working, but would it work to put

guys together and would they be able to connect?

But something amazing happened. As each guy logged in, they started introducing themselves.

I remember one guy named Justin was very welcoming, saying hi to every guy by name.

And I quickly went over some of the ground rules with the group and our confidentiality policy.

And then I asked a single question, what is pornography cost you?

And one by one, they began to share.

You know, about 10 minutes in, there was this incredible feeling of not being alone.

There were nods and smiles as each guy recounted their experience

with porn, even a few tears. The opposite of addiction is not sobriety. The opposite of addiction

is connection. That's what Johann Hari says. And we were experiencing the gift of connection.

Humans have a deep need to bond and connect with each other. It's one of the

ways we find satisfaction and meaning in life. When that doesn't happen, we bond with things.

And guys who've bonded with pornography have a hard time quitting, even if they want to,

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