#204: How To Use Conflict To Actually Deepen Your Relationship with Nick Solaczek

The Mark Groves Podcast

Mark Groves

Society & Culture, Relationships

4.9 • 5K Ratings

🗓️ 18 April 2022

⏱️ 82 minutes

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Themes: Relationships, Couples Therapy, Personal Growth, Communication, Conflict Resolution Summary: Today’s guest is not only a good friend, but an excellent teacher in the space of romantic relationships whom I’ve had the honour of watching grow as both a human and coach. Nick Solaczek is an IMAGO Relationship Coach and one of my go-to recommended coaches to help people discover a more fulfilling experience of being in romantic relationship. He works internationally with individuals and couples who want to take their life and their relationships to the next level. Discover: Why you keep having the same fights over and over again — and how to transcend the pattern Practical scripts for moving through conflict with your partner using IMAGO dialogue framework The five things that are necessary for safety within a relationship Why we’re often attracted to our opposite in romantic relationships Links: Follow Nick on Instagram at @nicksolaczek Visit his website here: nicksolaczek.com Sponsors: Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

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0:00.0	Hello and welcome to another episode of the Mark Gross podcast.
0:12.9	You know, I think one of the most complex dances in life is being able to effectively
0:19.3	manage conflict with our partners.
0:22.1	You know, that's true of anyone we love or like anyone we're in relationship.
0:27.1	That can be true of a stranger, actually, in a comment section of a social media post
0:32.3	and Facebook or wherever the fuck we hang out now and argue about things. But my point being that
0:39.6	romantic relationships, it's especially important that we learn this skill, that we learn this
0:45.7	dance that couples do and how to change the dance so it's more productive, more intimate,
0:51.3	more effective. And yeah, we just get to learn about one another more.
0:57.5	You know, a lot of the time we believe or feel as though a successful relationship has an
1:06.5	absence of conflict, and I don't think there could be something more untrue. Successful
1:13.2	relationships just handle conflict differently. You know, they manage conflict differently.
1:19.2	Conflict itself is really a bridge to deeper understanding, to deeper intimacy, to the
1:26.2	healing of former patterns, patterns that we picked up as children.
1:31.3	And really, a relationship that can learn how to do that dance and do it well can really bring
1:39.5	us to a whole new levels of ourselves. And if we can do it in romantic relationship, and I always joke that
1:45.7	also in our relationship with our mothers, because moms seem to be triggering in a lot of ways,
1:51.6	because it's our primary, you know, main attuned attachment. And yeah, it's just like, if we could
1:59.3	learn those, oh my gosh, like regular everyday interactions or conflicts with people are just so much more simple because we've begun to master it in this other section.
2:11.1	So I can't say enough about that.
2:13.2	That's really the work all of us are need to do and are here to do.
2:18.1	And it's just so healing and it just requires so much of us.
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