I'm going to go do something completely crazy.

I'm Angela Duckworth.

I'm Mike Mann, and you're listening to no stupid questions.

Today on the show, is it unhealthy to have unrealistic dreams?

I won the lottery, I got into every dental school I applied to. He likes me back. Angela I'm excited today. We have a really interesting question about dreams.

Hmm, I love dreams. So here is a listener question. He said I was talking to a friend and they said we should all move to Bermuda and retire and how nice it would be and went on to make elaborate plans for us down there. It would be

terrific but it would never happen. Why do we daydream these things that we

know could never happen? And that's from listener Daniel.

Now I'm like de-dreaming about living in Bermuda. Wait what was the

quiet? Sorry. I have so many thoughts about this because I have collaborated with this

psychologist named Gabriel Engen for like years but before I share what I think, what do you think?

I mean, do you have these kind of daydreamy fantasies?

Yes.

So when I first read Daniel's question, for me, I almost broke it into two different pieces. One is we have these

unrealistic dreams that are sort of fun to just fantasize about like winning the

lottery or getting all your best friends and living in the same cul-de-sac.

I also then thought about ambition and how sometimes we have unrealistic dreams,

if you will, or expectations of our own lives, and what we think we might be able to

accomplish. I think there are maybe a few too many tech startup founders who think

I'm the next Steve Jobs and I hate to break it to them.

Wait, is this the expression,

unicorn, they want to be unicorns?

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