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outer mismatch. Hello, hello, hello, and welcome to another episode of the Sabrina Zohar show.

My name is Sabrina Zohar and I am your host. Hi friends, welcome back. It's episode two of the Hard Truth series. You guys know, I love a series. I'm kind of a slut for them. It's fun because we build and we get to like expand each one. And don't worry, you guys asked for it. We're going to do the nervous system one a little bit later in spring. And so I'm excited. But last week we talked about being addicted to potential, right? You were dating the fantasy instead of really being in the reality. So today we're going to go further. What happens when you try to therapy your way through incompatibility? Spoiler alert, it doesn't actually work. And I need you to stop blaming yourself for something that was never really yours to fix. And guys, before we start, I asked you guys what you wanted to hear about this topic.

And the question box exploded. Don't forget to follow on The Simranes-Zohar Show on Instagram if you want to add in so that I can answer some of your questions. So I'm weaving those throughout. And don't forget, as always, at the end, we have the tool of the week. All right, babes. Without further ado, let's get right on into it, shall we? Hi, friends. We're back for another week.

And guys, as always, I'm trying to keep's get right on into it, shall we? Hi, friends. We're back for another week.

And guys, as always, I'm trying to keep the intros as short as possible, but the reminders is we have a lot of new people. So if some of the stories feel repetitive, I know, I get it. I can't come up with new things that I haven't experienced, but I'm doing my goddamn best. And I always just like to share and give a disclosure. I have ADHD. I speak fast and I curse a lot. If that doesn't work for you, that is okay.

Then this just isn't your community. But I'm so fucking tired of having to change who I am in order to make other people feel comfortable that don't even follow or know who we are, but yet want me to change who I am. And part of being here is that you can show up as you so that I also can show up as me.

And I don't take offense to it. But all I ask, that means the fucking world is share this with a friend. Share the episode, share the podcast, share anything with somebody that could actually benefit from this because that's the quickest way we can grow. Don't forget to rate and review the show. Leave a comment. We do read all of them. Doesn't mean that all of them are welcomed here and that some people won't get blocked if you're fucking rude, but we do want to be part of the community. And I love when you guys engage with each other and talk. And we just have so much more to go. We're getting close to the book time and it just feels surreal. And so I just wanted to say thank you and express my gratitude for all of you guys and let you know if you need anything. You can join a course, work one-on-one, ask a question.

Everything's at the link in bio. As the book comes closer, I don't know how much more I'll be working with folks while this all process is happening, but we're in this together. Oh, I didn't even show you guys. If you're watching, I got my new tattoo. tattoo. I got a bean for Kobe. It's still being healed and my mom tattoo for my mama,

because you guys know I talk about her all the time. So I wanted to show you that. Okay,

let's get into the episode so that we don't dick around in Dilly too much in Dally.

But I wanted to talk about this episode and have this episode because I think it's really

important for us to expand the conversation. I get it. A lot of you guys

don't tune in because the episode title isn't what you want it to be, but I assure you that all of

the episodes really do build on and they start to have a cohesion and like what how do we start

to improve repetition? So I know again, you might be saying, God, I've heard her say this again,

but maybe it's saying it in a specific way that unlock something. So if know again, you might be saying, God, I've heard her say this again, but maybe it's

saying it in a specific way that unlocks something. So if you don't want to listen, just mark it

is finished. Welcome to rigging the system. Okay, let's talk about the self-improvement trap,

because I know I was guilty of this, that we want to do everything we possibly can, but sometimes

that becomes our personality. When we're doing everything we can to try, I have to fix, I have to fix, I have to fix. Eventually, we have to stop and go, when will I be okay with where I am, though? And that is, I'm

guilty as charged that I'm personally trying to become okay with myself as well, right? Even the J. Shetty episode was incredible. And I was trying to explain to people like, when you have ADHD, talking to somebody else in a conversation, I can show up differently versus when I talk to myself. And people say, why are you so angry? I'm like, I'm not angry. I'm passionate about what I'm saying and I'm building myself up. But if I had stopped and said, okay, well, that's it. I need to keep

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