192: How To Let Someone In Without Losing Yourself | In The Trenches

The Sabrina Zohar Show

Sabrina Zohar

Society & Culture, Mental Health, Self-improvement, Relationships, Health & Fitness, Education

4.9 • 5.5K Ratings

🗓️ 10 March 2026

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Dating with an open heart sounds beautiful until your nervous system has other plans. In this solo In The Trenches audience Q&A episode, Sabrina answers your most raw questions about how to let someone in without losing yourself, how to date after grief, and what it actually looks like to stay present when fear or anxiety is running the show. From navigating new love after loss to the hard truth about anxious attachment and self-accountability, this episode covers the real work of building a healthy relationship: nervous system regulation, emotional ownership, and learning the difference between communicating and controlling. Want your question answered on a future episode? Send in your inquiries, stories, and dating profiles to inthetrenches@sabrinazohar.com If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE! If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. Head to Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home. Text SABRINA to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, plus FREE shipping. Message and data rates may apply. ============================= Chapters 00:00 Dating Without Losing Yourself 03:06 Dating After Grief and Loss 05:02 How to Make Space for Grief While Dating 07:51 When and How to Share Your Grief 09:42 Dating with Courage After Hard Times 11:28 What Is Sapiosexuality in Dating 19:30 Nervous System and Emotional Intimacy 24:30 Anxious Attachment and Gaslighting 27:06 Codependency and Emotional Regulation 29:42 Anxious Attachment and Accountability Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:32.5	How do you let someone into your life and get close with you without losing yourself,
0:37.8	without feeling overwhelmed, without reopening the wounds that maybe you haven't fully metabolized yet.
0:43.0	How do you stay true to yourself and not let your nervous system take over the wheels and fucking let you act in ways that aren't in alignment with you?
0:46.3	We're going to answer every one of those questions today.
0:48.5	Welcome to In the trenches.
0:50.0	Hello, hello, hello.
0:52.0	Welcome to another episode of the Sabrina Herscho.
0:53.9	My name is Sabrina Zohart and I am your host. Babes, we. Welcome to another episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show. My name is Sabrina Zohar,
0:55.0	and I am your host. Babes, we're back for another bonus, a solo bonus this week. And we got your questions, my babies. I am so excited. And as always, thank you guys. Thank you for being here. Thank you for rating, reviewing, sharing with a friend. Please, please comment and let me know what you think of the show. But I want to give a little disclosure before we start.
1:13.3	We have a lot of new faces here.
1:14.7	I curse a lot.
1:15.6	I have ADHD, so I speak very fucking fast. And if that's not your show, that's why we mark it as explicit, that's okay. You don't have to be here. I am creating a safe space, an environment, in a community of people that feel like they are seen, heard, understood, and safe to express themselves, my fucking self-included.
1:31.9	And so if you don't like it, that's okay.
1:33.1	You could just find another show or another coach.
1:35.0	I don't take offense to that.
1:36.1	But leaving really harsh comments and reviews of how much you fucking hate things because they're
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