#188 Couldn't Be Me Girl

Tea with Queen and J.

Society & Culture

4.9 • 768 Ratings

🗓️ 8 January 2019

⏱️ 146 minutes

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Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds talking liberation, politics, and pop-culture over tea. Drink up! On this episode… We’re shedding old friendships, setting new affirmations and all kinds of fun shit before an in depth convo about #SurvivingRKelly in real life, the docuseries, why it might not go far enough, and who shouldn’t have been included. Trigger Warning: #SurvivingRKelly conversation including discussions of rape, grooming, assault & other abuses starts at moment 48:36 and ends at 2:02:10 This week’s hot list: Witches & sorcery & Black girl magic, ending patriarchal friendships with pizazz, processing #SurvivingRKelly and reliving old sh!t, being respectable won’t save you, the fast girl myth, complicit adults, communal accountability, sex tape vs. rape tape (words mean things), celebrity victim blamers (why was Charlechew even in that doc?), and then light and fun sh!t, we promise! Tweet us while you listen! #teawithqj @teawithqj and add #podin on twitter to help others discover Tea with Queen and J. podcast! WEBSITE www.TeaWithQueenAndJ.com SOCIAL MEDIA Twitter: twitter.com/teawithqj Instagram: Instagram.com/teawithqj Facebook: www.facebook.com/TeawithQueenandJ Tumblr: teawithqueenandj.tumblr.com EMAIL teawithqueenandj@gmail.com DONATE www.paypal.me/teawithqj OR www.patreon.com/teawithqj EVENTS HARLEM, NYC Saturday, January 19th J. will be on a panel at the Black Comic Book Festival at The Schomburg museum! Supervillains: A Reflection of Us panel begins at 10:00am. Free RSVP & full schedule: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-schomburg-centers-7th-annual-black-comic-book-festival-tickets-53316870194 BROOKLYN, NYC Sunday, January 27th 5-8pm Join Queen for Ms. Vixen + CareFreeBlackGirl Vision board and Intention Setting Workshop at Cafe Con Libros Cafe & Bookstore in Brooklyn! Tickets & info here: msvixenirl.eventbrite.com PAY BLACK WOMEN Check out Adorned By Chi, a lifestyle brand for misfits & magical girls: https://adornedbychi.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adornedbychi/ NOTES & EXTRA TEA Listen to the latest episode of “A Little Juju Podcast”: https://soundcloud.com/user-991694293/new-years-reading Join Bag Ladiez podcast live at The Greene Space on January 28, 2019! Tix & info: http://www.thegreenespace.org/events/thegreenespace/2019/jan/28/bag-ladiez-live/ Visit Bag Ladiez website: https://www.bgladiez.com Listen to our interview with #MuteRKelly co-founder Kenyette Barnes in episode #153: https://soundcloud.com/tea-with-queen-and-j/153-muterkelly Scholly & growninsh are partnering to help pay off your student loan debt. You could have up to 125,000 in debt paid off. Learn more here: https://myscholly.com/grownish And here: https://verysmartbrothas.theroot.com/if-you-have-student-loans-grown-ish-and-scholly-are-tr-1831488830 This week’s closing clip features Kelechi Okafor (twitter @kelechnekoff): https://twitter.com/kelechnekoff/status/1079780148872953861/video/1 This episode was created, hosted & produced by Janicia & Naima with editorial support by Sam Riddell Libations to our friends Casey & Domingo who help keep this show running by giving their money to Black women. Libations to Ohene Cornelius for our show intro, check out his latest album Flight Risk available everywhere online now. You can find Ohene on instagram and twitter @ohenecornelius and on Facebook at www.facebook.com/ohenecornelius/ Libations to T.Flint for our News That's Not News intro! Find him at www.tflintvoiceovers.com/

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0:00.0	This week on Tea with Queen and Jay.
0:02.0	We're shedding old friendships, setting new affirmations, and all kinds of fun shit before an in-depth convo about surviving R. Kelly in real life, the docu-series, why it might not go far enough, and who shouldn't have been included.
0:14.7	It's Tea with Queen and Jay people. Drink up. We are recording.
0:32.5	Oh my goodness.
0:34.5	What's the first recording of 2019?
1:11.7	Hey, girl. Hey, girl. Hey, girl. How is you doing? All right. What's up? Nothing. How are you doing? I'm good. I feel refreshed and shit. We had a nice little vacay. Yeah, you did. Yeah. It was nice. So I'm here. I'm good. You ready? Yes. All right. Welcome to Tea with Queen and Jay. We are two womenist race nerds talking shit over tea, dismantling white supremacist, patriarchal capitalism, one episode at a time. I'm Queen. I'm Jay. And this is Tea with Queen and Jay. Ew. Yes.
1:12.3	Yes.
1:13.3	We haven't out.
1:14.8	We haven't out in a minute.
1:17.6	And I've been like doing a break.
1:20.3	I've been like alone because I was also a break at the day job.
1:23.0	So with no one to hang out.
1:24.9	Like what am I doing that?
1:26.8	So it wasn't happening. All right. Okay. Well, I'm glad to be back. I'm glad to be owing with you. Yes, me too. And we're glad to be owing with all of you. Welcome back to our listeners who have been riding with us and listening for the longest. And hello to our new listeners usuring in 2019 with us y'all are doing it right you
1:46.5	are this is how you start off your years this is how you do it this is how you do it if you
1:51.6	would like to follow the conversation being had on this hair podcast podcast you can do so by using
1:58.3	our hashtag hashtag t with qj yeah that's our hashtag right that is our hashtag it by using our hashtag hashtag T with QJ. Yeah, that's our hashtag, right? That is our hashtag. It's still our hashtag. Hashtag T-E-A with QJ. Anytime we have a gap or anything, I forget everything. It's weird. It's like we've never done this before. Yeah, one time I hadn't been to Jay's house for two weeks, and I went to the wrong apartment. It makes no sense. I've been coming here for years. Years. I don't know. Whatever. Years. Years. Sometimes twice a week. Yeah. You sleep here. Yes. Yeah. I have a toothbrush here. Went to the wrong apartment. And a lufa. You got toothbrush and aloofa here.
2:35.9	Oh, gosh.
2:38.6	But yes, use our hashtag hashtag T with QJ.
2:42.8	We will retweet that shit, like that shit, comment on that shit.
2:43.7	We love when you use that.
2:47.3	And then you can find other tea friends by using that hashtag.
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