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Dear Little Me

185: Accepting Abuse Because It Is Normal

Dear Little Me

Dawn Chitty

Childhood Trauma, Emotional Abuse, Narcissistic Mother, Healing, Ptsd, Trauma, Personal Journals, Health & Fitness, Depression, Anxiety, Mental Health, Society & Culture, Women Podcast, Relationships, Self Esteem, Self Help, Self Improvement

4.81.7K Ratings

🗓️ 20 September 2023

⏱️ 24 minutes

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Summary

This week on the HEAL blog 12 Steps To Self Love After Physical Abuse


In this quick chat episode, I speak with Nathalia who endured a challenging upbringing marked by a mother with narcissistic and controlling tendencies. Nathalia did not recognise this as abuse until very recently in her life because it was normal to her. The familiarity of this abuse saw Nathalia marry a man who exhibited similar narcissistic and controlling traits. Over a span of 16 years, the abuse within this marriage escalated to a disturbing degree, with Nathalia eventually convinced that she was the abusive one in the relationship. In Nathalia's story, we observe how this trauma has transcended generations, affecting her mother, herself, and her daughter. Each, in their own way, accepted emotional and physical abuse throughout their lives.


If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me at https://www.instagram.com/mybigloveproject or send an email to bigloveproject@iinet.net.au. I would love to connect with you.   



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0:00.0

The woman picks up on the other hand and I don't say anything.

0:05.8

And she says, I can't talk to you right now.

0:11.0

And I hanged up and she hanged up and she thought it was my ex calling her.

0:16.0

Obviously she had a husband and she couldn't talk.

0:21.7

And I showed him that phone and he started to chase me around the house.

0:27.6

And to take this phone, he literally grabbed my legs down the stairs and pulled me down the stairs to take the phone away and started to cancel everything and delete everything and then he threw the phone and he said there it is and my daughter seen that and it really affected her a lot.

0:49.6

Welcome to how my parents raised me, I'm Dawn Chitty.

0:59.6

When we are born, we arrive here as pure and perfect souls and the direction our life takes from that moment is deeply connected to what our parents bring to our lives.

1:12.6

And what our parents bring to our lives is deeply connected to what their parents brought to their lives and that's the cycle of families.

1:22.6

I have always craved connection with real and raw stories to understand what makes you you, what makes you the absolutely unique human that you are.

1:36.6

Stories are medicine for the soul they can connect us and they can change the world and so in this podcast I'm listening to beautiful souls sharing their story.

1:49.6

What happened to them, how they got through and how they have healed and thrived despite everything to arrive right here in this moment.

2:00.6

Content warning, if you are triggered by the themes of this podcast please seek a help line in your city.

2:11.6

Hello my beautiful friends and welcome back. If you experienced physical abuse growing up that will have affected how you feel about yourself, how much you are able to love yourself and care for yourself because you are made to feel worthless.

2:28.6

Please take a look at my new blog post finding self love after physical abuse. You will find some great tips on moving forward and healing from a childhood of physical abuse.

2:40.6

The link to this blog post can be found in the show notes to this episode.

2:45.6

In this quick chat episode I'm chatting with Natalia, a beautiful soul who spent her childhood with a mother who was narcissistic and controlling.

2:54.6

But Natalia didn't recognize this behavior because it was all she knew.

2:59.6

The familiarity of that relationship led to Natalia marrying a man who was also narcissistic and controlling.

3:07.6

The abuse became so bad over a period of 16 years that Natalia became convinced by this man that it was she who was the abusive one in the relationship.

3:17.6

That's how deep the manipulation became and as we love to explore the cycles of generational trauma on this podcast, you will see how this trauma was passed from mother to daughter to granddaughter in all the ways that they accepted emotional and physical abuse throughout their lives.

3:38.6

When I turned 19 I met my ex my ex husband and it was I just wanted to move I just wanted to go away and I don't know I didn't even like him that much.

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