Welcome to the show. I'm Jordan Harbinger. As always, I'm here with my producer, Jason DeFilippo.

When life gets hard, our minds so quickly point a finger elsewhere that we often don't even realize we're doing it.

If you're quick to blame others, join the club. I think if we're really honest with ourselves, a lot of us are guilty of this,

either in our personal relationships at the office or both. In fact, Pundits Galore are calling blame an epidemic in our society,

although they usually name it something else. The truth is, the instinct to blame is a toxic pattern and one that deprives us of our agency,

weakens our relationships, creates dysfunction and inertia in our lives, and stops us from growing and moving forward.

I probably don't need to keep selling you on the idea that blame is one of the worst habits to have,

and should be at the top of your list of habits to break.

Today, Gabriel Mizrahi and I explore why the impulse to blame is uniquely human, and outline what we call the accountability spectrum,

so that we not only stop blaming others, but we also do not simply absorb blame ourselves, which is equally harmful.

Of course, once we can spot blame and identify when we're doing it, we'll also give you some tools to break the habit,

and show you how to replace it with a process that's functional, keeps us happy and productive,

and makes the right kind of accountability a habit that we can take to the bank.

As many of you know, I have a huge personal and professional network, and the way that I built that was through systems and tiny habits and consistency.

I'm teaching you how to do this for free in my course, 6 Minute Networking, over at jordanharbinger.com slash course.

It's free, it takes 6 minutes a day, hence the name jordanharbinger.com slash course.

All right, here's Gabriel Mizrahi and I on blame.

I'm excited for this one today, Gabe, because this topic, first of all, I came from a listener,

and at first I wasn't sure if it was going to be relevant, and then I thought, wait a minute,

blame is something that I'd spent years in a culture that does a lot of blame.

And my family isn't really like that, but a lot of my friends were growing up.

In the last business that I was in, we had a blame culture.

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