18. "He's the man & he should pay. We can't go on like this any more"

Money For Couples with Ramit Sethi

Ramit Sethi

Investing, Society & Culture, Relationships, Business

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🗓️ 16 November 2021

⏱️ 50 minutes

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Summary

Monique expects Pablo to pay for her “as the man” in the relationship. Pablo wants “fairness” in a partner. Last week, I dug into their money psychology. Right at the end of last week’s conversation -- when both were feeling good -- they started discussing an upcoming trip to Mexico City. Suddenly, everything fell apart. All their positive feelings and new skills got thrown to the side, and they went right back to their old habits. That’s why I had to add a part two to our conversation. That’s today’s episode. When they’re discussing the trip, Monique already has her argument ready before Pablo finishes a sentence. Pablo’s fists are clenched. He wants to be the laid-back, confident guy Monique fell in love with, but his views on money have changed. You’ll hear him describe “Antonio,” his scarcity-minded alter ego. This conversation surprised me in so many ways. Listen in. Connect with Ramit Website Instagram Twitter Facebook YouTube Linkedin If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here. Produced by Crate Media.

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0:00.0	I'm just a bit blindsided that like you bought a thousand dollar ticket for me.
0:09.0	It's just like a weird feeling to have you buy something for me, but then turn around
0:13.9	and be like, okay, since I bought this, I'm going to make you pay for all the food and
0:18.3	all the housing.
0:19.3	So it's like you're not inviting me, you're making me pay you back in a different way.
0:24.7	And that seems transactional and cold.
0:30.2	Welcome back to I Will Teach You To Be Rich.
0:32.6	I'm Ramit Sethi and this is part two of my conversation with Pablo and Monique.
0:38.1	Now last week, we met them both.
0:40.6	And just as we were starting to come to a resolution, we opened up a whole new can of
0:46.3	worms.
0:47.3	That's why I had to turn this episode into two parts.
0:51.8	I want to reintroduce you to this couple, just to refresh your memory on who they are.
0:57.1	Monique is 23 years old.
0:59.0	She makes $33,000 a year and she describes her financial beliefs as traditional.
1:06.7	I always just thought of having like that fairy tale love of like going out and having
1:11.2	everything paid for like the guy pays for everything, the guy opens the door, the guy pulls
1:15.1	the chair out, the guy waits to kiss you at the end of the day.
1:18.3	I did expect him to pick up the bill when we sat there for like half an hour.
1:22.7	Pablo doesn't see money the same way at all.
1:24.9	He's 33 years old.
1:26.0	He makes $103,000 or about three times as much as Monique.
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