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You Are Not Broken

179. Roommate Syndrome, Giving Couples Hope, and How To Be a Man Worth Desiring with Coach Glen Lovelace

You Are Not Broken

Kelly Casperson, MD

Medicine, Health & Fitness

5743 Ratings

🗓️ 2 October 2022

⏱️ 66 minutes

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Summary

Meet Glen Lovelace! I love his generosity toward helping men in relationships and his masculine energy on this podcast! He shares his story from desperate (even suicidal) plans to living a life of helping others live their best relationships. When women learn about their sexuality and get empowered, often they feel stuck because of a spouse who they fear is not open to change.  I wanted to bring on someone who literally deals with this as his job.  Glen helps men who's wives have been transformed in one way or another, usually by coaching education.  Glenn Lovelace is the wingman for men whose wives have transformed from coaching. He is a certified coach through the life coach school. Glenn has coached over 3,000 clients 1 on 1 since 2008. His transformation started with bodybuilding after being in a very low place in his life. He decided he needed to prioritize himself to be the best spouse and father he could be.  "It’s okay to be uncomfortable." How to “gently” change your partner (and remember you can’t change anyone who doesn’t want to be changed). 1) Show them how you have changed 2) Bring in a third party influencer 3) Learn how to speak the same language 4) Always remember you two are on the same team Roomate Syndrome – just existing together and losing touch why you love and are attracted to each other. If one person does their work, the marriage can get better. Your spouse is just there to love. Can couples start speaking the same language? Glen says yes! Intimacy not in the bedroom is important! Wanting your spouse to change for you to be happy is a toxic plan. Happy Wife Happy Life - it’s a lie and Glen explains how it wasn’t good for him. Each person is in charge of their own pleasure. Don’t assume what is needed in a situation - - Ask How to be a man worth desiring? Start dating and desiring your wife. Approach her how she wants to be approached. Date every week. Keep your commitments. There are seasons to your sexuality. Foundations of trust in a relationship - Security, trust, safety, stability The trouble with saying “divorce isn’t an option” Talk about your religion – what does your religion say about sex and marriage and how have you navigated any challenges? “Progress Creates Happiness” – Glen Lovelace https://glennlovelace.com/ https://www.instagram.com/itsyourwingman Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK Join my membership to get a jump start on the coaching you heard in this episode and to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes. www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

You are listening to You Are Not Broken, the only podcast that combines science, medicine, and psychology to re-educate your brain and help you live your best love life.

0:11.4

And I'm your host, board certified female urologist, Dr. Kelly Casperson.

0:17.7

Friends, today I'm so excited to have my new friend, Glenn Lovelace. I feel like I was his friend

0:22.3

before he knew who I was, so I had to like fan girl off a second. But I met you on stage at a

0:28.0

mastermind that we both attended this past spring. And your talk was the highlight in a very unique

0:34.2

way. And so I'm like, I have to have this guy on my podcast to talk to the women

0:38.7

and the men and all the people about how men can benefit by coaching and thinking about their

0:44.5

thoughts on their relationships because there's so many struggles. And I want you to just for your

0:49.3

origin story of you came through kind of this mind work stuff through bodybuilding and working on how you had to

0:55.4

change your mind to change your body. Do you want to just walk us through like how that happened?

0:59.2

Absolutely. And the stage was so fun. They said three minutes and I'm like, well, I'm just

1:04.1

going to wait until they kick me off. And I just kept talking and talking. Did they kick you off?

1:09.2

I don't remember the hook. Yeah, Tyson came out and it was kind of like

1:12.5

some awkward intensity. He's like, dude, Brooke is going to kill us. Actually, she's going to murder me and

1:20.0

then I will be dead and I can't come get you. But anyway, it was a good experience. I did not think it

1:25.2

was too long. Well done. So yeah, I'm just going to jump in.

1:29.4

I own my story full face now.

1:31.4

It used to be some big secrets.

1:33.9

But I think it's 10 years ago this Christmas, I found a gun in my hand on Christmas Eve.

1:40.3

And as I've done my work backwards, I wanted to hurt my wife.

1:45.3

I wanted to hurt her by hurting myself.

1:48.3

And, you know, when I realized that, I was like, whoof, that's some messed up stuff.

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