177 - Families, relationships and the power of connection with Julia Samuel

The Dr Louise Newson Podcast

Dr Louise Newson

Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Medicine

4.8 • 798 Ratings

🗓️ 8 November 2022

⏱️ 32 minutes

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Summary

Human beings are hard wired to adapt to unexpected life events but how do we manage this process alongside our natural need to control? Psychotherapist, Julia Samuel MBE has been interested in this question throughout her 30 year career supporting families with grief and bereavement. Julia founded the charity Child Bereavement UK and has worked extensively with families in the NHS and private sector as well as writing books on grief, family, and change. In this episode, the experts discuss human nature and our response to adverse life events and times of transition. Julia speaks of the importance of love and connection with others and about the impact menopause can have on relationships, family life and work. Julia’s tips for helping your relationship: Be aware of how you’re communicating in your relationship and look at what has changed Try and form a regular habit like going for a walk together to talk and listen to each other and make time to reflect Be aware of your own inner critical voices and turn down the volume on those. Turn up the volume of self-compassionate voices and practice being kinder to yourself Remember connection with others is key throughout our lives For more information about Julia Samuel and her books, visit juliasamuel.co.uk For support and information if you have experienced the loss of a child or care for a grieving child, visit www.childbereavementuk.org

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0:00.0	Hello, I'm Dr. Louise Newsome and welcome to my podcast. I'm a GP and menopause specialist and I run the Newsome Health Menopause and Wellbeing Centre here in Stratford-Bron-Avon. I'm also the founder of the Menopause charity and the Menopause support app called Balance.
0:29.9	On the podcast, I will be joined each week by an exciting guest to help provide evidence-based
0:36.5	information and advice about both the perimenopause and the
0:40.9	menopause.
0:45.7	So today on the podcast I'm very delighted and honoured to introduce to you Julia Samuel,
0:51.1	who I've known for a little while and very, very inspired by the work that she's done.
0:55.8	And it's very common sense work, actually, but you don't realize until she tells you how
1:00.9	common sense and important it is. So Julia, I'm really keen for you just to talk about what you do
1:08.1	and who you are, if that's okay, first off all. Well, lovely to be with you. Yes,
1:12.5	I'm a psychotherapist. I have been for about 33 years. I worked in the NHS for 25 years,
1:20.2	supporting families when a child or a baby died, and found a patron of a charity child
1:25.2	bereavement, UK. So for decades, I was focused particularly on grief and bereavement.
1:30.7	But the learning from that is about when life events hit us,
1:37.4	unexpected life events, which can be from death, it can be from a pandemic,
1:42.2	is how we as human beings manage the adaptation process.
1:48.8	We are wired to adapt, but we want control.
1:53.5	And so it's how we manage that tension for ourselves,
1:58.9	for the people connected to us in our lives, and what supports us.
2:03.4	So really interesting and important because I am quite a control freak.
2:08.3	I like to be in control.
2:09.6	I think a lot of us do actually.
2:11.5	Most of us, yeah.
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