174: 3 Unrealistic Expectations in Marriage

The Empowered Wife Podcast: Marriage Help with Laura Doyle

Laura Doyle

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🗓️ 21 March 2023

⏱️ 46 minutes

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Getting married and expecting it to look a certain way then getting let down when it’s not is so discouraging. It can even put your marriage at risk. These are the top 3 expectations I had in my marriage that STILL come up for me sometimes and for many of our students too. So see if you also identify with having these unrealistic expectations. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about 3 unrealistic expectations in marriage.

Plus, my guest April, a star of the 5-Day Adored Wife Challenge, and her husband were both sober when they met. Then she found out he was hanging out at a local bar during the day, which caused a lot of fighting. But today she is so grateful for all the ways he makes her life wonderful. She’s going to tell us what she did so you can do it too.

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Empowered Wife podcast where it's all about fixing your marriage without
0:15.6	your man's conscious effort so that you feel desired, taken care of, and special, even if your
0:22.0	marriage feels completely hopeless.
0:24.0	I'm Laura Doyle and today I'm talking about three unrealistic expectations in marriage.
0:30.0	My guest April shared her story as part of the Five Day Adored Wife Challenge in January,
0:35.5	and she courageously agreed to let me share it with you on the podcast today.
0:40.8	She and her husband were both sober when they met, but a few years in she found out he was
0:46.2	hanging out at a local bar during the day, which caused a lot of fighting. But today she's so
0:51.8	grateful for all the ways her husband makes her life wonderful.
0:55.6	She's going to tell us what she did so you can do it too. That's coming up, but first
1:01.5	let's talk about the top three unrealistic expectations in marriage,
1:06.0	because getting married and expecting it to look a certain way and then getting so let down when it's not is discouraging and can even put your
1:14.8	marriage at risk. These are the top three expectations that I know I had in my
1:21.1	marriage and that still come up for me sometimes and for many of our students
1:26.2	too.
1:27.2	So see if you also identify with having these unrealistic expectations. One of the most insidious ones for me is number one. Doing
1:36.9	lots of chores and housework is the way to be a good wife. Early on, I thought that my efforts to keep a nice home and cook great meals and do his
1:48.6	laundry and run all the errands and make his doctor's appointments.
1:53.0	All of that made me such a good wife.
1:56.0	And I was just doing so much to earn his love and
2:01.0	and earn his appreciation by working hard at home and at work and putting hot meals on that
2:08.0	table at dinner time every night. You know, like he really scored a great wife because I would could just
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