Welcome to the Empowered Wife podcast where it's all about fixing your marriage without your husband's conscious effort so that you can feel desired and taken care of and special, even if your relationship feels completely hopeless.

I'm Laura Doyle, and today I'm talking about why husbands watch porn.

My guest, Aaron, was incredibly lonely and couldn't get her husband's time, attention, and consideration.

She lost all respect for him.

Then she made some changes and today he kisses her before leaving the house, tells her that he loves her and wrote her a card for their anniversary.

She's going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.

That's coming up, but first, let's talk about why husbands watch porn.

When you discover that your husband watches porn, it can feel really bad,

disrespectful even. Here you're his only partner in the bedroom and he's watching other

women do nasty things on his phone. It's so disappointing and so revolting.

It can make you feel pretty unspecial knowing

that your husband watches an endless parade

of strange women on the internet.

You wonder if he's even a decent moral person. Maybe he's addicted to porn and if he's

watching porn but not having physical intimacy with you, then it can really feel

like porn is stealing something precious from you.

Maybe you've told him to stop and he only does it in secret now.

That might strike terror into your heart. Maybe you wish you could just make him stop once and for all.

If he does watch, then why? Why does he insist on doing something so trashy when he knows it hurts his wife?

Especially if he said he'd stop or it's against his religion or his morals?

I know for me, whenever I find myself trying to control something my husband does,

it's because I'm telling myself that if only he would stop doing that thing, I could feel safe or happy or have peace of mind.

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