#171 - How to Stop Beating Yourself Up
Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
4.6 • 849 Ratings
🗓️ 4 November 2019
⏱️ 42 minutes
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Summary
Do you have a running commentary in your head about all your mistakes, faults and shortcomings?
It's so painful. It's so exhausting. It's also so common — especially in high-achieving, successful types. (Ironically). Yes, the people who seem pretty darn close to perfect in the eyes of others are often the ones struggling the most to feel peaceful and self-accepting.
Can you relate? Do you feel like you're never doing enough? Or like you have to be perfect (but even when you are, it could still be better?
If so, the latest episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast is for you. We're going to be talking about how to stop beating yourself up, even if (and especially if) you're going through life circumstances that make you more vulnerable to beating yourself up.
How to Stop Beating Yourself Up
Specifically, we're discussing:
- Why You Beat Yourself Up
- How to stop beating yourself up for mistakes
- How to stop beating yourself up for past mistakes (that feel big)
- How to stop beating yourself up over mistakes at work
- How to stop beating yourself up after a breakup
- How to stop beating yourself up for not being perfect
Listen to this episode to learn how to start pushing back against this "inner bully" so that you can cultivate self-compassion, feel less insecure, feel good about yourself, and take pride in your many accomplishments so that you can own your awesome.
You are worth it!
All the best,
PS: What's on YOUR mind these days? Have a question or a suggestion for an upcoming blog or podcast? I'm listening! Feel free to drop anything in the comments of this episode (here) or via this secure form.
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | This is Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby and you're listening to the Love, Happiness, and Success Podcast. |
| 0:08.1 | The musical guest on our podcast today, the musical inspiration, if you will, is from a band |
| 0:14.8 | called The Lovable Tulips. The song is Beating Up and one of the lines that they sing in the song is the fight inside |
| 0:25.4 | is beating up my heart. |
| 0:27.9 | And I thought that line was just so beyond perfect for our topic today because today |
| 0:34.9 | we are talking about what to do when you're really hard on yourself like so many |
| 0:41.9 | people are but it's common but it's also very difficult you know and many times when I'm |
| 0:50.8 | sitting in my my office you know with a life coaching client or a therapy client |
| 0:56.8 | or these days, you know, on my laptop on a video conference call with a therapy or life |
| 1:02.3 | coaching client, you know, I see in front of me a person who is so like accomplished, successful, genuinely likable, you know, so many things going for them, |
| 1:18.5 | often gorgeous. I mean, it seems from the outside, like they have everything going for them. |
| 1:24.0 | And they tell me that it doesn't feel that way on the inside you know they'll tell me that they |
| 1:32.4 | beat themselves up just mercilessly criticize themselves pass judgment on themselves or really just |
| 1:42.4 | kind of have a running commentary going on in their heads about |
| 1:45.6 | all of their mistakes, faults, shortcomings. And even worse, I think, when they do do things |
| 1:54.5 | that are fantastic, which is frequently, they like dismiss it. |
| 2:01.0 | It's like, oh, but that doesn't matter because the real truth is that I'm really not |
| 2:07.0 | that great and so let me tell you why. |
| 2:09.7 | And it's so hard, you know, because I think a lot of times people don't realize when |
| 2:15.8 | they're beating themselves up. |
| 2:17.7 | They just do it. |
| 2:19.3 | It's so ingrained. |
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