169: Can a Relationship Be Saved after Domestic Violence?

The Empowered Wife Podcast: Marriage Help with Laura Doyle

Laura Doyle

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🗓️ 14 February 2023

⏱️ 43 minutes

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Physical abuse is one of the scariest things you can experience. If you’re not safe with your own husband, then when are you ever safe? Everyone who knows you and loves you may get scared too and say you have to get out of that relationship. Then it seems pretty hopeless and even foolish to try to fix a marriage after there’s been hitting, kicking, shaking or choking. That’s what I thought too. But I got schooled! I got schooled by women who have lived through domestic violence and fixed their relationships. Women who had restraining orders against their husbands, women who had to go to the hospital for injuries after fighting with their husbands. They didn’t want to be victims or be divorced, and somehow they found a way to fix their marriages and make them safe. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about whether a relationship can be saved after domestic violence.

My guest Queenie was so tired of her husband constantly interrupting, correcting and criticizing her. Then a huge fight turned physical, so she took the baby and left. But she decided to do some experiments, and today they are back together and she says her marriage is unbelievably amazing. She’s going to tell us what she did so you can do it too.

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Empowered Wife podcast where it's all about fixing your marriage without your husband's conscious effort so that you feel desired, taken care of, and special, even if your relationship feels completely hopeless.
0:22.0	I'm Laura Doyle, and today we're talking about
0:24.0	whether a relationship can be saved after domestic violence. My guest Queenie was
0:29.9	so tired of her husband constantly interrupting correcting and criticizing her. Then a huge fight
0:37.0	erupted and turned physical and she took the baby and left. But she decided to do some experiments and today they are back together and she says
0:48.3	her marriage is unbelievably amazing. She's going to tell us what she did so you can do it too.
0:55.0	But first, let's talk about whether a relationship can be saved after domestic violence.
1:02.0	Because physical abuse in your own home is one of the scariest things you can experience.
1:07.0	And if you're not safe with your own husband, then when are you ever safe?
1:12.0	And everyone who knows you then when are you ever safe?
1:13.0	And everyone who knows you and loves you may get scared too and say,
1:18.0	you've got to get out of that relationship so you'll be safe.
1:21.0	They'll want to protect you. So then it seems pretty hopeless and maybe even foolish to try to fix a
1:27.1	marriage after there's been hitting, kicking, shaking or choking. That's what I used to think too, but I got schooled. I got
1:37.5	schooled in the best possible way by women who have lived through domestic violence
1:41.8	and fixed their relationships. I found out that I was too
1:46.8	scared of domestic violence, so scared that I couldn't find my faith and I became
1:53.0	became bossy and I told women they should leave if they were in a scary situation.
1:58.0	I became Mrs. Know-It-All who didn't actually know that when there's violence in the home that doesn't mean the relationship can't be fixed.
2:08.0	I learned from women who are braver than me, women who had restraining orders against their husbands and then decided to remove them.
2:15.8	I heard from women who had to go to the hospital for their injuries after fighting with their
2:20.1	husbands. These women were scared too, but something made them decide to experiment
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