Yo today's QODS before we can be ourself, we have to know ourself.

Here we go.

Welcome back to the QODS show. I'm your host, Sean Croxton, at www.SeanCroxton.com.

We got Dan Millman back on the show. I think it's been years since we had Dan Millman on

the show. It's always good stuff when we have them all, though.

And you know, if you were to ask me, what are the most important things you've discovered

during your journey of personal development? I would say number one is how to deconstruct

my negative self-talk to challenge it and to prove that it's just wholly inaccurate,

right? The negative stuff. But a close second place would go to discovering shadow theory

and embracing my shadows. And Dan's going to talk a lot more about this in just a second.

But what that means is, you know, there were a lot of parts of myself that I was trying

to cut off. I didn't like them. I didn't want to see them. And I essentially just like

submerge them underwater. I tried to drown them out. And you know, when you, when you,

when you take a beach ball and you try to submerge it underwater, at some point, it's

going to blast up, right? Above the water. And we say to ourselves, like, oh my gosh,

that anger, that so wasn't me because that was a side of yourself that you were trying

to cut off, but it was still there. And it's always going to be there, like in order

to be a whole person, we have to accept all of the sides of ourselves. Even if we don't

like them, I used to try to cut off my anger side. But now I've accepted it. And I get

to use that anger to fuel my work. I get to channel it differently. And that's so much

more freeing than trying to cut it off. And another thing that I recognized when I started

doing this work is who triggered me? And I got to look at the people who triggered me.

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