How does erotica get us into our ultimate turn on? And how can we write our own sexy stories?  We also answer a sex question: I want more kissing with my wife. Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 18.  About our guest: Rachel Kramer Bussel is a writer, editor, event organizer and writing instructor. She’s edited over 60 anthologies, including Come Again: Sex Toy Erotica, The Big Book of Orgasms, The Big Book of Submission, Tasting Him: Oral Sex Stories, Tasting Her: Oral Sex Stories, Crossdressing, Spanked: Red-Cheeked Erotica, Best Bondage Erotica of the Year, Volume 1 and five volumes of the Best Women’s Erotica of the Year series. Her writing has been published in The New York Times, The Washington Post, O, The Oprah Magazine, SELF, Elle, Rolling Stone, and elsewhere, and she writes regularly about book publishing for Forbes online. Her pansexual erotica has spanned numerous subjects, from French fries to Monica Lewinsky to boxing, as well as exploring lap dances, a dishwashing fetish, a nudist resort and a kissing party, among other scenarios and settings. Her work has appeared in Best American Erotica 2004 and 2006 edited by Susie Bright as well as Zane’s bestsellers Succulent: Chocolate Flava II and Purple Panties, and translated into Italian, German and Japanese. She teaches in-person erotic writing workshops across the United States and around the world, as well as consulting via EroticaWriting101.com on erotica and sexuality nonfiction, and will be launching an online erotica writing class in 2020. Find her on Twitter @raquelita. To learn more visit rachelkramerbussel.com Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Get turned on with 30 days free of super hot audio erotica at dipseastories.com/shameless Want to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com