155. Talk to Kids About Sex: 5 Common Mistakes

You Are Not Broken

Kelly Casperson, MD

Medicine, Health & Fitness

5 • 743 Ratings

🗓️ 1 May 2022

⏱️ 27 minutes

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Dr. Shannon Widlansky was trained as an Ob/Gyn who is now a life coach. She has been a gender expert for 8 years. She helps institutions use more gender-inclusive language. She is a facilitator of the Our Whole Lives curriculum which teaches sexuality to all ages. She talks about what was wrong with past sexuality education. The definition of “man” or “woman” is wrapped up in the function of a body part. Which gets shaken up when there are problems with these organs. You don’t have to talk about the clitoris when your education is only a “disease and pregnancy prevention plan” – Dr. Casperson 5 common mistakes adults make in talking to kids about sexuality 1) Not planning ahead 2) That it is more than sex and puberty a. 5 circles of sexuality i. Body image and appreciation, sensualization ii. Intimacy iii. Identity iv. Repro health – puberty changes, infection v. Sexualization – consent, how media portrays sexuality 3) One and done “the talks” – a lifelong conversation. 4) They have to get it right – don’t expect to get it “right” 5) Inclusive language “most but not all” Consent – ideally an enthusiastic yes, not something that is coerced. What country does it well - Netherlands Other tips – what would your ideal conversations look like? Lead from confidence Books mentioned What makes a baby – Corey Silverburg. https://amzn.to/3vuB89w Sex is a Funny Word – Corey Silverburg. https://amzn.to/39tWfAq Puberty is Gross but Also Really Awesome https://amzn.to/3y1GvP9 The Everybody Book – Rachel Simon https://amzn.to/37WETLV https://www.instagram.com/self_revolutionize_coaching/ https://www.facebook.com/Shannon.Widlansky.SRC Our podcast sponsor is Bonafide Bonafide products help women embrace the natural changes that occur throughout all phases of life. Discount code for 20% off:NOTBROKEN Sales link: https://hellobonafide.com/notbroken The CME experience for this Podcast is powered by CMEfy - click here to reflect and unlock credits & more: https://earnc.me/mpbKrS --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	You are listening to You Are Not Broken, the only podcast that combines science, medicine, and psychology to re-educate your brain and help you live your best love life.
0:11.5	And I'm your host, board certified female urologist, Dr. Kelly Casperson.
0:16.7	Hello, friends.
0:17.7	I'm so excited today to be with Dr. Shannon Woodlansky, who has trained as an Obi-Gyne and is now a life coach at the life coach school, which is where I trained. So friends with physicians who are life coaches, they're my favorite people. You've been a gender expert for over eight years, and you help institutions use more gender-inclusive language and increase their understanding of transgender issues.
0:38.3	And you are a facilitator of Our Whole Lives curriculum, which teaches sexuality to all ages.
0:44.0	Thank you so much for coming on today.
0:46.0	I'm so happy to be here.
0:47.8	So what we're going to talk about today, I have never talked about this on the podcast,
0:51.4	and I'm so excited because people ask me for resources all the time.
0:55.2	We're going to talk about how to talk to kids about sexuality.
1:00.2	And today you brought with us so we can talk about five common mistakes that adults make in talking to kids about sexuality.
1:07.6	Can you just tell people, you know, real quick, your journey?
1:10.5	Like how did you go from med student, OB-Gyne resident, OB know, real quick, your journey? Like, how did you go from
1:12.0	med student, OB-Gyne resident, OB-Gy-Gyne to life coach, inclusive language expert?
1:18.5	Sure. So I think the journey started when I was young and I, you know, joke that I had to go
1:24.7	to medical school to learn about my body because my parents
1:28.1	didn't take care of that education at the time. We didn't have much of it at school either.
1:32.5	And so as I began to learn things, I thought, like, people should know more about their bodies.
1:37.9	And then as I went through OBGY in residency and kind of seeing the effects of some of the ways we do teach, and that goes into the
1:46.9	mistakes that I'm going to talk about, seeing the effects of like how we teach it affecting
1:51.1	individuals as they become adults and they're thinking around their bodies. So that kind of
1:56.5	stimulated more thought and conversation. And then our whole life's curriculum is that sexuality
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