Yo, today's QLD is, shame is a focus on self.

Guilt is a focus on behavior.

Here we go.

Welcome back to the court of the day.

We got Brunei Brown on the show today.

She's going to cover an incredibly important topic, which is the difference between shame and guilt.

She's also going to talk about what it means when we blame.

Brunei Brown, she's coming up.

We have to understand the difference between shame and the other self-conscious affects, or the self-conscious emotions.

Shame, guilt, humiliation, and embarrassment.

This is really important.

Shame, I am bad.

Guilt, I did something bad.

And if you've heard me say this before, it's because I've said it every time I've ever talked about shame, because there's no other way to explain it.

Shame is a focus on self.

The simplest example I can give you is from an academic article that Rhonda Deering and Jean Taney did on shame in addiction.

You get to work late on a Friday, because you're so hungover from getting drunk the night before on Thursday night.

You're late enough on Friday that you miss a very important client meeting.

And your self-talk is, I am such an idiot.

I am a total loser.

I'm a slacker. I'm a loser.

Shame or guilt?

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