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The Addicted Mind Podcast

145: Achieving Recovery Through The Wolf You Feed with Sophie Aghdami

The Addicted Mind Podcast

Duane Osterlind, LMFT

Health & Fitness, Medicine, Mental Health

4.8621 Ratings

🗓️ 6 September 2021

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Summary

Sophie Aghdami is an addiction recovery coach in Australia. Today, she shares her own story of recovery from alcoholism as well as how a particular parable helped change her whole perspective on recovery, find success in healing, and create a thriving life. 

Sophie grew up in Switzerland and the UK and moved to Australia just two years ago. Her drinking started as an early teen. In the UK, it’s a cultural thing to start drinking early or at least be around it a lot. It was just the norm for Sophie. She also worked at a pub surrounded by people who were always drinking and, as she went through university, she stayed in that line of work.

Sophie then started managing restaurants. She loved this job but it was very stressful and the hours were long. As a result, drinking became her coping and stress-release mechanism. She began drinking earlier and earlier in the day until it became her brain's reaction to cope with stressful situations.

Eventually, Sophie realized that drinking was no longer a fun option for her but a necessity to kickstart her brain to face the day. It was then that she got out of the restaurant industry. Unfortunately, she still found herself stuck in alcoholism afterward.

Finally, after a compassionate conversation with her brother, she decided to go to a five-week rehab in Thailand which was life-changing for her. Soon after, she found her calling as an addiction recovery coach. In this role, she not only helps others but also assists herself in her own recovery.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • When Sophie realized she had a drinking issue
  • The pivotal moment when she decided to go to rehab
  • Removing herself from a toxic environment
  • How she found her calling as a recovery coach
  • The parable that inspired Sophie to name her coaching company
  • Recovery starts when you start feeding the good wolf 
  • Breaking down recovery into smaller steps and celebrating each tiny thing
  • The need for support, especially in the early stages

Key Quotes:

[02:14] - "In the UK, it was a very cultural thing to start drinking very early, or at least be around it a lot."

[05:43] - "In the restaurant industry, and especially alcohol, it's so socially acceptable. It's perceived as just doing something really fun."

[17:24] - “When I was feeding my bad wolf, the relapses would begin or the addiction just continued.”

[17:30] - “​​Feeding the good wolf, releasing that shame, giving ourselves compassion, love, having a connection, all of those things that I mentioned from the parable – that's where recovery really starts to strengthen and we're able to maintain it.”

[20:03] - “To think of the bigger things that started being added in, over time, was too overwhelming so I ended up not doing anything. So I thought the best thing to do is do something tiny, and celebrate that tiny thing."

[22:23] - "Courage is there so just try and reach out and step out of that dark place. There will always be someone there to help because the support is necessary."

[24:57] - "When we build up the strong wolf, things like self-compassion do get stronger."

If you really enjoyed this episode, we’ve created a PDF that has all of the key information for you from the episode. Just go to the episode page at www.theaddictedmind.com to download it.

Supporting Resources:

www.thewolfyoufeed.com 

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Transcript

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0:00.0

Hello, everyone. Welcome to the Addicted Mind podcast.

0:09.8

My name is Dwayne Australin and I'm your host and we are on to another episode.

0:16.7

Today our guest is Sophie Agdami. She is a recovery coach in Australia.

0:23.3

She shares her own recovery story from alcohol and shares how a particular parable

0:31.5

helped change her whole perspective on recovery and helped her find success, healing, and creating a life that she

0:46.4

thrives in. I really enjoyed talking with Sophie, and I hope you enjoy the conversation as

0:53.9

well. All right, everyone, let's start this episode.

1:00.5

Hello, everyone. Welcome to The Addicted Mind. My guest today is Sophie Agdami, and she is going to

1:09.1

introduce herself. Why don't you go ahead, Sophie? We've already been

1:12.1

talking a little bit, but about what we're going to talk about and I'm excited about it,

1:15.7

but you start introducing yourself. Sure. Hi, Dwayne. I'm really happy to be here. I'm Sophie.

1:22.4

I live about an hour outside of Melbourne, just near the Great Ocean Road. So it's morning here.

1:30.5

So yeah, I live here with my dog. Echo. We moved here about just over two years ago from Europe.

1:37.3

I grew up in Switzerland and then in the UK. And I've got family in L.A., Spain, Switzerland, England. So all over the world. Yeah,

1:48.4

yeah. And I made the move here just over two years ago. Awesome. Great. So let's just jump right in.

1:56.2

I want to hear about your story because you're an addiction recovery coach and I like to hear people's

2:02.2

stories of recovery and how they kind of find their way through it. So let's start there.

2:08.6

Sure. So my drinking started probably early teens. In the UK, it's a very cultural thing to start drinking very early or at least

2:21.6

be, you know, around it a lot. So that's where it really started for me. And it, yeah,

2:28.9

it just became the norm, you know, school discos or hanging out with friends. It became very normal. And I also had a job

2:36.6

in a pub, which probably helped that career. Right. So here you are around it all the time.

2:45.2

Exactly. For you. For me, the main thing that happened was it became so normalized.

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