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You Are Not Broken

134. Stop Gaslighting My Vagina

You Are Not Broken

Kelly Casperson, MD

Medicine, Health & Fitness

5743 Ratings

🗓️ 6 February 2022

⏱️ 20 minutes

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Summary

On social media A woman asked – my vagina is so dry that sex is painful, how can I fix this? Wikipedia: Gaslighting is a colloquialism, loosely defined as making someone question their own reality. The answer provided on social media to this question: - Regular sexual activity, self stimulation and pelvic floor exercise can help keep your vagina health. - IS THIS ACTUALLY TRUE? - This doctor said “I tell women to avoid sugar and use probiotics to make sure their entire ecosystem is “humming along” – NO evidence that oral probiotics affect vaginal microbiome – then she plugs her diet and her probiotic products - She then goes on to say – two additional ways to counteract vaginal dryness is to strengthen the pelvic floor by doing kegel exdrcises and using a “holistic formulation” that helps maintain optimal levels of natural moisture, and “supports a healthy vulva and vagina”. – this is her product – which states it “prevents leaks” and costs 70 dollars. Also claims to “reignight desire” – WTF I searched in J sex med - does intercourse delay or treat vaginal atrophy? – can’t find a damn thing I found on an internet site - “Regular sexual activity, with or without a partner, can help maintain healthy vaginal tissues through increased blood flow and avoid or lessen the effects of vaginal atrophy.” - No citations, so again I went to J Sex med – can’t find a thing On menopause.org - Regular vaginal sexual activity is important for vaginal health after menopause because it stimulates blood flow, helps keep your vaginal muscles toned, and maintains your vagina’s length and stretchiness. - No citations, and furthermore, the vaginal muscles are smooth muscles controlled by the autonomic nervous system – you can’t tone them with sexual activity - I will buy that stretching the vagina frequently probably allows it to be stretched frequently without pain – but is there evidence and why sex, why not just dilation? Current treatment options for postmenopausal vaginal atrophy Iuliia Naumova1 and Camil Castelo-Branco2 Int J Womens Health. 2018; 10: 387–395. It is important not to forget about the positive effect of sexual intercourse on the improvement of vaginal health – no citations (JAMA 1983;249:2195-2198) Vaginal Atrophy in the Postmenopausal WomanThe Importance of Sexual Activity and Hormones - But this study was not randomized – perhaps the less atrophy allowed the women to be sexually active and not vice versa? How do we know the sexual activity caused less atrophy? We don’t have any studies. Another paper on vaginal atrophy gave this recommendation - Regular sexual activity should be encouraged to maintain vaginal health. (II-2B) - Usefulness/efficacy is less well established by evidence/opinion Why is level 2-2B evidence cited as scientific fact? Pro-tip – Billionaire Marc Cuban just started an online pharmacy for low cost generic drugs https://costplusdrugs.com/ - vaginal estrogen tabs for < 10 bucks, cream for 54 dollars. What other myths do you want me to bust? Reflect on how this Podcast applies to your day-to-day and earn AMA PRA Category 1 CMEs here: https://earnc.me/C7gjrk --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

Welcome to You Are Not Broken, the only podcast that combines science, medicine, and psychology, to re-educate your brain and help you live your best-to-love life.

0:15.9

And I'm your host, Ford Certified Female Urologist, Dr. Casperson.

0:22.1

Hey, podcast family.

0:23.8

It's Kelly.

0:24.4

I'm so glad that you are here.

0:26.1

I am all hooked up ready to do this amazing podcast.

0:29.3

I've been doing podcasts for like two years now.

0:32.6

And not once really have I like done a bunch of research on.

0:36.6

I mean, this is kind of my day job, right?

0:39.4

So with my day job, I like already know a lot of things about my topic of my podcast.

0:43.7

But this is the first podcast that I've actually done a decent amount of research on.

0:48.3

And I am like so excited to put this podcast out there.

0:52.0

The title of this podcast, if you don't know yet,

1:00.9

the title of this podcast is don't gaslight my vagina. And where this came from is on social media.

1:07.6

It was an Instagram platform. I will not name any names on social media. There is a woman.

1:28.8

She's a doctor and she has a platform. And so the question was, my vagina is so dry that sex is painful. How can I fix this? And we first need to define the definition of gaslighting. So Wikipedia says gaslighting is a colloquialism, loosely defined, is making someone question their own reality. And the term may also be used to describe a person or a gaslighter who presents a false narrative to another group or person, which leads

1:34.8

them to doubt their perceptions and become misled. Generally, for the gaslighter's own benefit.

1:40.0

And this is important going back to the question of the dry vagina.

1:48.7

So generally, this dynamic is only possible when the audience is vulnerable,

1:52.8

such as an unequal power relationship or when the audience is fearful of the losses associated with challenging the false narrative.

1:55.7

Gaslighting is not necessarily malicious or intentional, although in some cases it can be.

2:00.0

So definition of gaslighting

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