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12 Strategies to Stop Toxic People from Driving You Nuts!

Real Estate Training & Coaching School

Real Estate Training & Coaching School

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4.4705 Ratings

🗓️ 5 April 2021

⏱️ 29 minutes

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“Toxic people attach themselves like cinder blocks tied to your ankles, and then invite you for a swim in their poisoned waters.” ― John Mark Green 1 Prune the weeds before they grow. Have systems in place to identify ‘early warning signs’ before the weeds take over your relationship. In real estate this means prequalifying 100% of your buyers and sellers for motivation, time frame and level of cooperation. Use your buyer and seller pre-qualification scripts without exception! 2 Make sure YOU are not the toxic person yourself. Monitor your compliant-ometer. Are you a battery charger or a battery drainer? What would people around you say? Do you create problems just to feel like you’ve ‘negotiated’? 3 Stop having separate rules for different or unique situations. Just because someone is buying or selling at twice your average sale price doesn’t automatically make them qualified! 4 When you generate an abundance of business, you don’t have to tolerate the toxic, unmotivated, overly pushy, disrespectful, time vampires. How many times have you worked with toxic people because you just didn’t have enough in your pipeline and figured ‘what the heck?’ The more business you have, the less you’ll say yes to questionable prospects. 5 Stop thinking real estate is full of toxic people, or that just YOUR business has toxic types. It’s NOT real estate. It’s dealing with the public. Every business that’s successful has toxic people slip under the radar from time to time. It’s a numbers game. It’s NOT real estate. It MAY be your business from time to time when you get several slipping past you. When does this happen? When you’re busy? Tired? Disorganized? Stopped using your scripts? 6 Appreciate difficult people for the light they shine on your business. Cranky, particular, stressed out types are like heat-seeking missles looking for the flaws in your system. Be grateful they identify those issues for you and FIX the flaws. 7 Focus on what’s going RIGHT more than what’s going WRONG. Gratitude, grace and giving will prevail when you focus on what you’re here to give more than what’s here to take. When someone slips through your filter but they’re still your client, especially when you have them in contract, it’s your job to follow through for them! Be the solution, not a continuation of the problem. Get back to a place of being of service. Sometimes you have to get out of your own way...this means setting your ego aside and simply doing your job. Your clients trust you to lead the way, even if they don’t verbalize this to you. They don’t know how to ask for help, but know that they crave your leadership. PROFIT is the result of your leadership and skill. Tomorrow we start with Point #8 Schedule A Free Coaching Call Listen on iTunes Listen on Spotify Listen on Stitcher

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0:00.0

Welcome to Real Estate Coaching Radio, starring award-winning real estate coaches and number one international bestselling authors, Tim and Julie Harris.

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Real Estate Coaching Radio is the nation's number one daily radio show for realtors

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who demand authentic real-time coaching.

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Get ready for fluff-free, unfiltered, full-strength honesty about what's truly working

0:34.0

to get you into action, helping others, and making money now in today's real

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estate market. Now to our hosts, Tim and Julie Harris. Three, two, one, and we're back. It is

0:47.8

April the 5th. We're five days into the second quarter. I know, just like that second quarter.

0:54.2

Yep, that's crazy. So how about this is a good topic? Now I'm not sure if I'm in love with your title, to be honest with you. But it's still good. So Julie wrote 12 strategies to stop toxic people from driving you nuts. You know the whole toxic part. That word's overused, don't you think? Probably. We could call them crazy people. We could call them stressful people. Crazy is definitely a protected class. You've got to watch out with that. Yeah, but I'll work on that. wound up people. But the takeaway, though, is valid, right? Twelve strategies to stop, you know, jerks from driving you nuts. How about that? Yeah, I'll tell you why I brought this back up because we have talked about this on

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podcasts before is I've had several conversations and I've also heard on Clubhouse. With jerks?

1:33.3

Well, no, more like, you know, really good agents and brokers having to deal with the anxiety

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that's out there, either from prospects or clients, but unfortunately, oftentimes from other agents,

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because they, especially on the buyer side, they're just all totally stressed out. And it's,

1:50.6

I call it like agent-on-agent violence, though it's not violence. It's just like psychological

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violence. And I was reminded by somebody that, you know, you have to take the high road you have to be the

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professional because you don't know who's going to be the next one with the

2:05.0

listing that your buyer needs to buy then you don't know whether you're

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going to be the listing that you've got to deal with somebody who's best

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qualified buyer with somebody that you just had a fight with over some back and

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forth so I you know I guess from a coaching standpoint I feel their pain but I'm kind of tired of hearing about the back and forth. So I, you know, I guess from a coaching standpoint, I feel their pain,

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but I'm kind of tired of hearing about the back and forth. And sometimes it's coming from the

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client themselves. I'll tell you, there's a lot of renegotiation attempts going on for people,

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the one that I just heard about on our Facebook Live was it for sale by owner that got themselves

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