“I would keep the peace or create peace at any cost. And a lot of the time, the cost was myself.” Amie searched for love her entire life. But all she found were unsafe people. And all she learned was that love demanded everything and gave nothing but pain in return. Despite this, Amie is a poster child for what’s possible after a life of abuse. She’s flourished in Flying Free and Flying Higher, moving from a caterpillar perspective to a butterfly perspective, from crawling to flying. How? It all comes down to old thoughts versus new thoughts. Just like a caterpillar, Amie wove a cocoon of new thoughts to replace the ones that had led her into harm and kept her from living beyond her trauma. What she learned is so powerful, so practical, and so encouraging, we talked for 2 hours. I broke our discussion into a 3-part podcast series, diving into exactly what Amie did and providing listeners the simple, downloadable resource she used to fly free. Part 1 of this 3-part therapy session includes: - Why Amie was terrified that Flying Free would not be a safe place for her - How chameleons and trauma are related - The FREE PDF DOWNLOAD for old thoughts vs. new thoughts (see below) - Why the church’s definition of “community” is usually just icky enmeshment - 2 old thoughts and 2 new thoughts from Amie’s worksheet (these are truth anvils, I tell you!) - How Amie was robbing her ex-husband of his chrysalis when she thought she was loving him (super easy to do with our kids too) Listen or download the transcript at flyingfreenow.com/181 FREE: I'll send you the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage. Just hop on my mailing list at flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-download. (I will NEVER spam you or sell your information.) Desperate for real help and safe people who understand what you're going through? Find out about my online education and support program for women of faith at joinflyingfree.com And, if you are an already divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, have amazing relationships, build a business or career, or even find a good man - check out joinflyinghigher.com