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Secular Buddhism

113 - Right Speech

Secular Buddhism

Noah Rasheta

Spirituality, Buddhism, Mindfulness, Society & Culture, Meditation, Secular, Religion & Spirituality, Philosophy

4.82.7K Ratings

🗓️ 28 October 2019

⏱️ 27 minutes

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Summary

How can we communicate more skillfully? In this podcast episode, I will discuss "right speech", one of the points on the eightfold path. I will discuss three different communication styles: passive, aggressive, and assertive and share a communication formula that has helped me to communicate more skillfully with my loved ones.

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0:00.0

Hello and welcome to another episode of the Secular Buddhism Podcast.

0:04.6

This is episode number 113. I am your host Noah Rochetta, and today I'm talking about

0:12.1

right speech or skillful communication.

0:19.9

As always keep in mind you don't need to use what you learn from Buddhism to be a Buddhist.

0:25.2

You can use it to learn to be a better whatever you already are.

0:30.8

Let's start out by talking about the Zen Kowan I left you in the last podcast episode.

0:37.0

This is the Kowan that's called the Short Staff. Shuzan held out his short staff and said,

0:44.0

if you call this a short staff you oppose its reality. If you do not call it a short staff you

0:50.1

ignore the fact. Now what do you wish to call this? This is one of those short and simple Kowans

0:58.0

that's meant to make you really think. He brings out what seems like two opposing arguments here.

1:06.6

One is that if you do call it a short staff you're opposing the reality of what it is.

1:15.8

So let's start with that. What is this thing? I think Kiri is focusing on a couple of things.

1:21.6

For me this is how this makes sense. Short is relative. It's only a short staff when it's

1:27.4

compared to another staff. Let's say a longer staff. So if it's stacked next to a longer staff

1:33.2

then sure it's the short staff. But if you put it next to another staff that's shorter than this one

1:38.4

this isn't the short staff this is the long staff. So we have the problem of comparison. What are

1:44.7

we comparing it to to decide that it's short or not? But then the other argument that he brings up

1:53.5

is that if you do not call it a short staff you ignore the fact. And again the fact is interdependent.

1:59.7

Well if it's next to a longer staff and we don't call it a short staff then we're ignoring the fact

2:06.2

that it is shorter than the one that it's sitting next to. So for me this Kowan becomes really powerful

2:14.0

when I try to think of it in terms of seeing through the lens of impermanence and through the

2:21.2

lens of interdependence. We talk about this often in Buddhism right? Seeing through

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