We are all alone. We're born alone. We die alone and there's melodramatic that sounds it does it right I say it in my book and I have to sort of soften it by saying you know take some take deep breaths, but it's a thing.

We all die alone.

Well, that's what they say, isn't it?

And it's sort of true in an abstract kind of way but really we often die surrounded by

loved ones. Ideally they don't come with us on that journey so you could say we embark on it alone but then that's only if you really believe

there is some sort of post life journey. Where we are often alone is not necessarily death or birth, but the mundane parts of our lives

on the toilet.

Hopefully, for most of us, maybe on the morning commute you may feel alone, even while cramped like sardines inside

a carriage. You can feel particularly alone on the days we have pressured to be with others,

like New Year's Eve or in a relationship

that isn't quite working. In our world of computers and whatnot we're both more and

less alone than ever.

We sit in little rooms without leaving for days on end.

Or is that just me?

Maybe it is, but then I have interview after interview, chat after chat with friends and for work.

And anyway, here to tell us that it's okay to be alone to make that time for ourselves,

even within friendships, relationships and communities, is Francesca Specter, whose book

A Loneman is linked in the show notes. Francesca helps people come to terms with being alone and learn how to rock that

a loamement look and that style and go to the cinema alone, to restaurants alone and to feel confident and happy.

Follow Francesca on at Shay Specter,

CHEZ is in the French spelling,

Shay Specter on Twitter, I'm on at Andrew Gold

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