Yo, today's QOD is teaching a growth mindset leads kids to take on challenges stick to them and improve

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Welcome back to the QOD show I'm your host Sean cracks in a Sean cracks in dot com. We got Dr.

Carol Dweck on the show today. She is the author of an amazing book that I highly recommend called Mindset.

And in that book you learn the difference between a growth mindset and a fixed mindset.

A growth mindset is just like the title of this episode is someone who takes on challenges who sticks to them who is willing to improve.

You know, he's willing to say, okay, I'm not good at something. I am going to get better at it by studying it and practicing it.

Whereas a growth mindset is someone who believes that the way things are or the way that they are is the way that things or themselves are always going to be.

And sometimes as parents, I'm not a parent, but you'll read more about this in the book.

Parents can use words with children that actually fosters a fixed mindset.

And you'll learn more about that in today's episode. Here's Dr. Dweck.

So I actually have two children, two daughters, college and high school age. I read your book after my older daughter was approaching high school.

But my younger daughter benefited from it to the point where I banned the two S words in our house, Martin Stupin. I never used the latter.

But I was very guilty of using the former razor hands if you've used, if you've told a friend or a child or a loved one how smart they are.

What's that word? Are really powerful. Is one thing I took away from your book. Talk about trigger words like that.

Smart, stupid, and how those can work against your best intentions.

Yes. When you call someone smart, you put them in a box or really you're kind of putting them on a pedestal.

And their life becomes organized around deserving the pedestal, staying on the pedestal. And you can only do that by narrowing your life to include only things you're sure you're good at, only things you're sure you can succeed at.

When we tell someone you did that so quickly, I'm so impressed. They hear, if I didn't do it quickly, you wouldn't be impressed.

And a lot of things take a long time. Or you got it, you got it A without working. Then you say, oh, if I work, you're not going to think I'm smart at math.

And so that you're just very subtly conveying these ideas that smart people don't make mistakes. Smart people don't have to work hard.

The most important thing in the world is to be smart and look smart at all times. And then people start narrowing their world so they can succeed within that fixed mindset.

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