110: Use The 5 Love Languages To Improve Your Stepfamily Life with Ron Deal
The KICK-ASS Stepmom Podcast
Jamie Scrimgeour
4.9 • 723 Ratings
🗓️ 28 June 2021
⏱️ 50 minutes
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Summary
This interview with Ron Deal, was played in my membership space for The Exclusive Stepmom Community.
Ron Deal discusses the 5 Love Languages and how you can apply the love languages to your stepfamily life.
Be sure to grab a copy of Ron's book: Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages and Becoming Stepfamily Smart.
For more from Ron visit www.smartstepfamilies.com
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | I want you for this, but I don't need you for that. I need you to take me to soccer practice. |
| 0:04.2 | I don't need you to ask me about my deepest, darkest fears. But the step parents going, but that's what I want to be. |
| 0:10.0 | Well, here's the reality. Until those two definitions of what this relationship is going to look like come together, you're really not working on the same thing. |
| 0:19.3 | One of he's working here. One of he's working here. |
| 0:21.2 | And you miss each other. |
| 0:22.8 | The hard part is not being so frustrated with that as a step here. |
| 0:25.9 | By the way, when two people have one has a high motivation to get to know the other person, build a relationship and the other person has a lower motivation. |
| 0:34.1 | Who wins? |
| 0:35.6 | Lower motivation. |
| 0:36.6 | Lower. |
| 0:40.4 | The person who's least invested always dictates how much of a relationship we have. That's why it's so frustrating for stepparents because you have |
| 0:45.6 | high motivation. You want this family to come together. You want every relationship to matter. |
| 0:50.8 | And then there's Johnny. He's 16 and doesn't care. It's not that he doesn't like you. |
| 0:57.4 | It's just that he doesn't need you in that place in his heart. Maybe he's already got a biological |
| 1:02.5 | parent and that's he's got a dad, he's got a mom. Maybe one of them's deceased. That person still |
| 1:07.5 | lives on inside that special place in his heart. So it's up to Johnny to decide and figure out where to put you. |
| 1:15.1 | In the meantime, you try to love him with something that matches his openness to you. |
| 1:24.3 | Welcome to the Kickass Stepmom podcast. |
| 1:26.9 | I'm Jamie Scrimger. |
| 1:28.2 | Wife, mom, stepmom, life coach, conversation opener, and BS caller. |
| 1:33.3 | Seven years ago, I found myself sitting on the bathroom floor with a glass of wine, |
| 1:37.6 | bawling my eyes out, wondering what the heck I was thinking, marrying a man with three kids in her next wife. |
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