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Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens

109: Encore: Why Are Our Kids So Mean To Us?

Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens

Dr. Lisa Damour/Reena Ninan

Mental Health, Kids & Family, Health & Fitness, Parenting

4.7 • 824 Ratings

🗓️ 7 March 2023

⏱️ 29 minutes

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Summary

How should you respond when your kids are mean to you? What’s age appropriate behavior and what should not be tolerated? Dr. Lisa and Reena unpack why kids lash out and what’s behind the outbursts. How do you know when hormones are the cause or when it’s something else? Dr. Lisa has advice on how to create a safe space for kids at home that allows them to work through their frustrations but also teaches them what’s acceptable in the real world. This episode is an encore presentation that originally ran at the end of May in Season Two.  AVAILABLE NOW: The Emotional Lives of Teenagers by Dr. Lisa Damour. Available at www.DrLisaDamour.com and everywhere books are sold. ________________ Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens is the essential podcast for parents seeking expert guidance, tested strategies, and psychological insights on raising kids, especially tweens and teens. Join renowned clinical psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and former journalist and mom of two Reena Ninan as they explore real-life parenting challenges.  Looking to learn more about how to boost kids’ resilience, build their confidence, or support their emotional well-being? Dr. Lisa and Reena have got you covered! Together they address listener questions about stress, anxiety, social media concerns, school pressures, and challenges in peer relationships. Each episode provides practical advice and science-backed solutions to help parents raise resilient, confident, and emotionally healthy kids. Tune in every week for the latest topics in parenting, child psychology, and family wellness. Get answers to your most pressing parenting questions. New episodes drop every Tuesday. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @Lisa.Damour, @ReenaNina Checkout Dr. Lisa’s website for more resources.  https://www.drlisadamour.com/ Ask Lisa is produced by:  https://www.goodtroubleproductions.com

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0:00.0

This is Ask Lisa, a podcast to help people understand the psychology of parenting.

0:10.0

Psychologist Dr. Lisa DeMore, author of two New York Times best-selling parenting books, takes your questions.

0:17.0

And I'm co-host, Rina Ninan, a journalist and mom of two.

0:24.2

Some of what we talk about comes from raising children ourselves.

0:28.2

Most of the time, I'll be getting answers to your parenting questions.

0:33.1

So send your questions to Ask Lisa at Dr.Lisademore.com.

0:38.4

An encore episode, episode 109, why is our kid being so mean to us?

0:48.8

This week, we present an encore episode that originally ran at the end of May in season two just before the start of summer.

0:54.0

I can't shake this feeling of exhaustion all the time.

0:56.0

I can't even say the word exhaustion. I'm so exhausted.

0:58.0

Rina, I laid down at 6.15 yesterday afternoon.

1:01.0

You did?

1:02.0

Yeah, in the evening, and I never do that.

1:04.0

You never do that.

1:05.0

And I just couldn't get it together.

1:08.0

So I just was like, I'm going to go lay down.

1:10.0

Well, why? I just don't know. It's like my brain is constantly on all the time,

1:15.0

thinking about how to do what to cook for dinner, or did we clean up this, I've got to finish this

1:19.2

for the company. What, I just like, how do we reset that sometimes?

1:24.8

Well, I think summer will help. And one of the sayings in schools that I think is

1:28.8

really helpful is the idea of 100 days of May. You know, it's almost like the winter holiday in terms

1:33.7

of like all the extra demands, but, you know, there's just so much stuff you have to do to get kids

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