105. Restart Your Sex Life with Dr. Lori Brotto

We Can Do Hard Things

Glennon Doyle & Audacy

Society & Culture, Relationships, Education, Self-improvement

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🗓️ 16 June 2022

⏱️ 63 minutes

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Summary

1. Answers to fascinating sex questions from Pod Squaders–including how to get real in the bedroom after regularly faking orgasm. 2. Concrete mindfulness strategies to get out of your head and into your body, which have been proven to increase arousal and satisfaction. 3. Busting the myth about how long it should take to orgasm. 4. Why talking about sex (including fantasies!) before having sex leads to more satisfying intimacy–and why that feels fun for Abby and impossible to Glennon and Amanda. 5. Where to start if you’ve never discussed pleasure with a partner–and Dr. Brotto’s advice to Glennon for retiring her reign as Silent Sex Queen. About Dr. Brotto Dr. Lori Brotto is a Professor in the UBC Department of Obstetrics and Gynaecology, where she holds a Canada Research Chair in Women’s Sexual Health. She is also the Executive Director for the Women’s Health Research Institute—one of only three institutes in Canada devoted to advancing research in women’s health, and maintains an active practice as a Registered Psychologist. Dr. Brotto was recently featured in the Netflix series The Principles of Pleasure, and is the author of Better Sex through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire and forthcoming The Better Sex through Mindfulness Workbook: A Guide to Cultivating Desire. TW: @DrLoriBrotto To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Well, hello, everybody. Welcome back to We Can Do Hard Things since we have Dr. Brado,
0:16.5	Dr. Lori Brado back with us today to talk to us about sex. I am not going to waste your
0:23.0	time talking about anything else, okay? So let's jump in. Hi, Abby. Hi, sister. Hi, Dr.
0:29.0	Brado. Hi, Lori. Hi, hello, hello. Let's talk about sex base. Somebody had to do it. Everybody
0:35.4	had to do it. Sorry. Okay. No, no, no, babe. We love you. We love you. Never never gets old.
0:40.9	Does it though? Does it? Okay. I want to just recap. Everyone must go back if you haven't
0:48.5	and listen to the first episode where we talked about sexual dysfunction, mostly in women
0:55.3	and how so much of it is caused by many things, one being our beliefs about sex and our
1:02.9	conditioning about sex from our culture, which shames us into fleeing our bodies early,
1:11.2	the political climate right now, and stress of all kinds, how stress in our in our minds
1:20.6	makes us not able to be in our bodies during sex. Can you, Dr. Brado, give us a better
1:26.5	description of it than I just gave us about stress keeps us from having good sex? Yeah,
1:33.8	for sure. Let's define stress, first of all. Like we can think about things that are stressful,
1:39.6	like a big event that we don't want to attend or a big event that we have to plan for.
1:45.7	And then there's the day to day stress, the never ending to do lists, the daily grind,
1:52.6	the having to get groceries at the end of the day because the fridge is empty. And it
1:58.2	does turn out that the day to day stressors that kind of perpetual to do list do more damage
2:04.8	to our brain than single big life event stressors. And it's because of their chronic nature.
2:13.2	So our brains were evolved to deal with stressors in the moment, right? We encounter the
2:17.0	saber-toothed tiger. We have this big fight or flight response. And we either take off
2:24.0	or we fight the saber-toothed tiger, but that would be stupid. So we didn't have evolved
2:29.1	over time. So we run. So our stress response system hasn't evolved over millennia. It has
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