104. “We’re worth $1.25M, so why is he afraid to get a $15 gym membership?”

Money For Couples

Ramit Sethi

Relationships, Society & Culture, Investing, Business

4.6 • 3.1K Ratings

🗓️ 6 June 2023

⏱️ 73 minutes

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Stacey is 37 and Jesse is 38. They’ve been together for 18 years, married for 11. They started with nothing, but now they make $238,000 a year. Their numbers are healthy, maybe even too good. So what’s the problem? Stacy’s designed their financial system with no room for Jesse to participate in it. This episode is brought to you by: Calm | Go to https://calm.com/ramit for 40% off unlimited access to Calm’s entire library. LMNT | Right now, LMNT is offering 8 single serving packets FREE with any LMNT order. This is a great way to try all 8 flavors. Get yours at https://drinklmnt.com/RAMIT. Nomorobo | To protect yourself and your family from phone scams, go to https://nomorobo.com/ramit for a 14-day free trial. Rocket Money | Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to https://rocketmoney.com/ramit. Links mentioned in this episode • Download the Conscious Spending Plan • Get the Podcast Newsletter every Saturday • Get my New York Times best-selling book Connect with Ramit • Get Money Coaching with Ramit • Get my no-numbers journal • Other episodes • Instagram • Twitter • YouTube If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here. Produced by Crate Media.

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0:00.0	Have you heard people talking about the hedonic treadmill, the idea that once you start spending money on certain things
0:06.8	You're not going to enjoy it anymore and then they usually tell you this so therefore don't get on the hedonic treadmill
0:12.9	Don't spend any money if you get a raise bank at all. I don't love that advice. It's just getting people to play small
0:19.3	I would rather you have a philosophy or a framework on how to know when you are ready to spend more in my life
0:28.2	If you told me remit you can't stay at nice hotels
0:31.8	That would actually be very difficult for me because those things are important to me
0:36.2	For a lot of people if they own a house and you say you can't afford it anymore
0:39.9	You've got a rent or move into an apartment. They would find that incredibly difficult
0:44.4	I don't want you to be afraid of the hedonic treadmill and worry about spending money on anything because you're just gonna
0:49.9	Get used to it. So don't do it at all. No, I want you to have a more nuanced perspective on money
0:55.0	That's why this Saturday on my podcast newsletter. I'm going to share six main areas where once you spend money
1:01.6	It's really difficult to go back and my philosophy is to make sure that you are ready
1:07.5	To move up the value chain before you ever spend money on these things
1:11.9	I set my life up so I would never have to take a step back when it comes to nice hotels
1:16.6	I want you to do the same for the important things in your life get on the newsletter at iwt.com slash podcast newsletter
1:24.2	I'm only sending this particular newsletter out on Saturday, August 12th after that. You will not be able to access it
1:30.4	Iwt.com slash podcast newsletter
1:36.4	I find finance discussions intimidating
1:42.5	Threatening almost at times awkward. I'm very avoidant to the conversations. Jesse is not a planner
1:50.2	Jesse, would you agree with that? Yes, I'm very fly by the sea of the dance. How would you describe the way you feel right now?
1:57.3	Mad at myself
1:59.3	As I don't think I realize what I created
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