#1039 - Connor Beaton - Why Successful Men Always Self-Destruct

Modern Wisdom

Chris Williamson

Health & Fitness, Society & Culture

4.7 • 4.6K Ratings

🗓️ 29 December 2025

⏱️ 118 minutes

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Connor Beaton is a men’s life coach, founder of ManTalks and an author focusing on men’s wellness and personal growth. Why do so many men struggle with their own inner world? Many grow up believing they must handle life alone, stay tough, and hide their emotions. What helps men become emotionally stable, and how can they learn to work through challenges in healthier, more honest ways? Expect to learn why so many high-functioning men self-destruct in private, why so many men feel “emotionally safe” at work but not at home, the most misunderstood thing about men’s emotional life, what’s an addiction that doesn’t look like addiction, but absolutely behaves like one is, how men can build their self-worth, the traits of an emotionally safe man, why there is a trend to desexualise your brain and much more… Sponsors: See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: https://chriswillx.com/deals Get 35% off your first subscription on the best supplements from Momentous at https://livemomentous.com/modernwisdom Get a Free Sample Pack of LMNT’s most popular flavours with your first purchase at https://drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom New pricing since recording: Function is now just $365, plus get $25 off at https://functionhealth.com/modernwisdom Get a free bottle of D3K2, a Welcome Kit, Travel Packs, plus bonus gifts (US only) when you first subscribe at https://ag1.info/modernwisdom Extra Stuff: Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: https://chriswillx.com/books Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom Episodes You Might Enjoy: #577 - David Goggins - This Is How To Master Your Life: https://tinyurl.com/43hv6y59 #712 - Dr Jordan Peterson - How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs: https://tinyurl.com/2rtz7avf #700 - Dr Andrew Huberman - The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain: https://tinyurl.com/3ccn5vkp - Get In Touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Why do so many high functioning men self-destruct in private?
0:05.7	It's like you're like describing my clients.
0:09.0	Oh, boy.
0:10.4	I think there's a number of different reasons.
0:12.6	There's trying to maintain this image externally.
0:17.8	And part of that image is the perfectionist.
0:22.8	So there's never any room for downfall. There's never any room for weakness. There's never any room for problems or issues.
0:30.5	And so for a lot of men, that becomes, it becomes something that they start to medicate.
0:36.7	And usually that has rooting in childhood, right?
0:39.3	That they had to be a certain way in order to garner love,
0:43.3	to garner attention.
0:44.3	So for a lot of super high performing men,
0:47.3	they grew up in an environment where they kind of had to be perfect.
0:51.3	And if they were perfect enough, then they would get affection,
0:53.3	then they would get love, they would get praise, they get validation. And if they were perfect enough, then they would get affection, then they
0:54.2	would get love. They'd get praise. They'd get validation. And so for a lot of young guys, it's like
0:59.2	a lot of men in general, it's if I can be perfect enough and I can perform well enough, then everything
1:06.1	will be okay. But if that starts to falter just a little bit, then it says something about me personally.
1:12.6	It means that something's wrong with me, and then shame starts to creep in, and they don't want
1:16.2	anybody to know that that's happening. And so slowly over time, because they can't admit that there's
1:23.2	something wrong, they can't admit that there's an issue, They can't sort of vocalize it. They start to
1:29.2	medicate that shame or they start to medicate the perceived weakness, the insecurity, the anxiety
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